Gingervitis

[Charmerbluegirl]

Hi Everyone my cat passed away yesterday an I'm very saddened, I keep having breakouts [ crying ] each time I think of him. He died in his sleep. I'd would of liked to be there with him in his final moments but sadly no one was with him. Therefore he passed alone and it kills me knowing that. I know he's no longer in pain and he fought pretty hard since his respiratory illness but just being there with him would have made it all the better. I blame myself for not being with him chose to visit family and not come home to spend time with him as I always do. I feel so guilty and I miss him so much, he would have been 3 years in September but I thank God for the years I've had with him.

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Sorry for your loss especially after only the short period of time you were able to have him with you. He has been there for you and helped you move on in your life.There is very little anyone can say regards your cat passing over, we have had dogs for the last twenty five years and our first dog Pip still seems to be around us, He upsets Pax when He is having his food and sometimes I see something white walking around our garden Pip was a Pat Dog and Pax also seems to see our old family member as He plays in and around the bushes and fruit trees.

They seem to be always around us even when they have past over and one day we will meet again where we will be able to play again on the other side.

BOB

[Charmerbluegirl in reply to Hidden]

Thanks I'm trying to stop crying but it's hard he was always with me and now he just isn't

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Sorry for your loss. You did what you had to do

[Charmerbluegirl in reply to Hidden]

Thanks

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Remember we never loose our Pet Companions, they are part of our family and as such they will wait for us on the other side.

We will be together again in a happier place

BOB

[Charmerbluegirl in reply to Hidden]

Thanks so much

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So sorry for your loss x

[Charmerbluegirl in reply to Hidden]

Thanks

[kenster1]

so sorry to hear that about your little kitty heaven has another furry friend.

[Charmerbluegirl in reply to kenster1]

Indeed It Does

[Crystallady18]

Sending you loads of love and a big hug. My kitty currently has big health challenges and I’m especially worried now, back to the vet today. It’s so hard to think that they may not understand, but on some level they do. Please know that they ABSOLUTELY know how much we love them. Your sweet boy definitely did and does now. Do your best to drop the guilt and know you did everything you could. I know it hurts that you weren’t there, but maybe he actually chose to let go while you weren’t home because he hates goodbyes, as many of us do ♥️♥️♥️

[Charmerbluegirl in reply to Crystallady18]

Thanks so much I know you mean well but my dad says that animals know when there time is coming and they usually go away and he did on Sunday evening but he came back home and to me that was for a reason. It hurts so much that I didn't spend enough time with him.

[gracy225]

I am so very sorry! I know how absolutely heart wrenching it is to lose a pet. (I didn't even want to use the word "pet" as it does no justice to our loss). I have learned the hard way felines will seek a quiet and human free spot to pass away privately. It's in their nature according to my veterinarian. Sending big hugs to you ....xgracy

[Charmerbluegirl in reply to gracy225]

Thanks so much but I would of wanted to be there. I was so happy to find him, it was bitter sweet cause I ran outside only to realize he was already gone. I could have had those moments with him if only I had gone outside earlier.

[Hidden]

I wish I could come and give me permission to be with you and hug you in your grief. I know for me my furries have been more to me than any of my human family. They listen to me, give me ‘hugs’ when I am distressed , unconditional love and give me a reason to keep pushing on. So, while I can’t (hug) you I can extend support and you are welcome to PM me anytime to tell me how you feel, let me know the good and fun times you had with Gingervitis, the sad times, piccies or whatever you feel able.

Talk to Ginger too even out loud, tell him how you feel, call his name out when you are crying, tell him how much you love him, how much you miss him, go over the good times with him, laugh at the funny things he did.

Maybe your vet practice like mine will allow you to call and get some support from them following gingers passing , also if you had insurance my one has bereavement phone number.

It is important to talk though and I know from experience however many times you are told not to feel guilty it doesn’t stop what you ‘believe’ but maybe just allows a ‘file’ to be stored in your thoughts for when your able to open and re evaluate. ‘I know that sound a bit new agey and mindfulness (eek!)’. But for me its how I cope with stuff that is too painful to deal with when i have too many raw emotions thrashing around. Deal with the emotions coming now. File the ‘questions, if, and maybes’. It is very hard to do but I know for me (30+ years) this is the only way that helps me stop spiralling into a full on crisis.

Please know you don’t need to be alone with your grief Ginger is very special to you he looks a real stud and you were special to him too

Sending you my deepest, furriest hugs ,

[Charmerbluegirl in reply to Hidden]

Aww thank you so so very much, well I had him burried so I visit him everyday and talk to him. I wanna decorate his grave and put his name and stuff. He was truly an amazing cat. He was always there, made me happy when I was sad and it hurts so much that I wasn't there with him for his passing. That guilt isn't leaving me at all and sadly my family are getting frustrated with me crying all the time. I guess they don't really understand how much he meant to me. After all he is my child. Thank you so much for your love. Hoping all is well on your end.. 💙❤

[Cb1963]

Oh I'm so sorry you've had to say goodbye to your beloved cat,sadly you weren't around in his final hours, please don't give yourself a hard time, its distressing enough losing a pet, it becomes part of you, and others might not feel the same way, our pets are ' loaned' to us while we are on this planet and sometimes they don't live a long time, however you've had them lovely years together then you are blessed, we all take our sorrows in different ways, and if you're young it may take you time to come to terms for your loss,don't feel guilty, the pain will ease, my thoughts are with you 💙 😇

[Charmerbluegirl in reply to Cb1963]

Thanks So Much I Just Wanted To Be There, Maybe I Would Have Had Some Peace But I Totally Appreciate Your Words Of Wisdom. Stay Blessed !