Failing.

[hlg1712]

My whole life I’ve always tried to prove I’m not like my family and can amount to something. But I just feel such a disappointment. Nothing ever goes right. I always get rejected. I always fail. I have just done a uni interview whilst still being away from home and hours after the interview I find I’ve been rejected. I feel like I’m failing myself and everyone else

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Unemployement is fact of life and you need to keep jobsearch - do courses or voluntary work because that's is what gets you the job and references.

Also interests keeps your mind going and keeps you positive.

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Hig

Life is so full of knocks, when we are young it takes time to get over the bruises and sadness of what life may have in store. If you are over critical of yourself you will not gain confidence.

All you can do is keep trying and understand eventually with the right attitude you will make good and put everything down to a learning experience. You mention Uni and the fact you were rejected from the course you wished to take. I was not acceptable for Uni so I ended up in Marine College for training in Marine Radio and Radio, with Marine Electrical Engineering. I eventually flunked a paper and I ended up as an Engineer for one of the services even though I knew the work was not for me. Eventually I took other courses at Uni in Youth and Community Work and that in a way proved to be the correct way forward however I did not take that, and was retired sick

You always need to try different ways to approach the challenges you wish to achieve, Try just to achieve without stressing out, that will only make you dwell on failure.

When we are young most of us are so very self critical we push and push hard to show we can achieve and prove ourselves to those who have brought us up. You need to work out your needs and not be so critical and try to push to hard. Enjoy the challenge.

I am in my late sixties and now I try different hobbies and take courses to learn how to perform. I now pass the examinations then I sometimes work away with the certificates and go and try something else. Just for the joy of doing it. It works when you look at life as a learning period. It is up to you to decide and enjoy what you wish to do, if you enjoy the challenge and not strive you will do well by gaining confidence.

Do not push yourself, to enjoy a course or study is better than trying to demand you do better than those around you. Look for a challenge you enjoy, you will achieve in your life if you demand of yourself to take the right pathway and enjoy your early years you will gain confidence and be successful.

BOB

[fauxartist]

Then change what your doing...if it's not working, do something different. Sometimes we set ourselves up for failure because it's a familiar course of action in our life experience growing up....but that can change when we change direction....definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results....

Look into why things aren't working....what do you need to do differently in interviews, what about career counselling where someone in the know can help you re-direct your goals to suit your character and interests.