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I wondering if anyone can help me, my boyfriend suffers with severe paranoia and gets himself in such a depressive state. He was diagnosed with bipolar prior to me knowing him but nothing was ever done about it he was never medicated, I don’t know whether the bipolar has any relation to the paranoia but just don’t know what else it could be, I’ve told him to get help and every time he comes close something always happens or he manages to convince himself that I’m only trying to get him help to “cover up what I’m up to”. Really don’t know what to do it’s so draining for him he gets in such a rut and just feels so worthless like no one cares and everyone is going to help him, any advice would be appreciated thank x

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Hello Lev_jazz,

Welcome to our supportive community. Hopefully, you will find folks here are only too willing to come alongside you and share from their personal journeys and experiences.

You are obviously having a difficult time right now and I would strongly advise you to encourage your boyfriend to speak to his doctor and ask for a mental health referral. BPD needs to be properly, medically managed and there is a lot they can to help stabilise his moods etc. If you can speak to his doctor too about how he is, and how it's affecting you that would be helpful.

Check out this information about BPD from Mind UK charity:

Do check out our Pinned Post section for free mental health guides, International crisis support helplines:

Keep in touch. Ok folks can you offer some support to this lass.

Best wishes,

MAS Nurse and Moderator

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Levi_jazz in reply to MAS_Nurse

He has messaged mind today! They have been giving him some advice do you the paranoia is related to the bipolar? Thank you ! :)

I would hope that MIND is recommending He sees His GP for help and a diagnosis.

Medication may need to be prescribed and some form of treatment pathway may help.

Bi- Polar can generally be controlled with medications. Possibly He knows HE has problems and is frightened at His mood changes. He may also be showing concerns and frustrations regards this problem. Confusion and fear can affect mood. Fight or Flight may cause problems here as well

Depression and low mood may be making Him feel uncertain and frightened He will lose you. I would be really concerned if He became reactive and become violent, or insults you.


His GP haven’t got appointments until after Christmas, but it’s just getting progressively worse, I can’t say anything without him taking it personal or seeing it as I’m attacking him, he just feels so worthless and thinks everyone deserves better then him then the next couple days he is all happy bouncing around , I know he would never hurt me or be violent towards anyone it’s just not him but I just worry he is going to get himself into such a state he won’t be able to get out of this rut

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