I'm not good enough

[Bethany_rachel]

I'm not good enough for anyone or anything just feel like a waste of space

[sophgirl]

Hi sweetie,

No you're special and you posted here and know tat u are not alone! You're a hero hanging on today and I'm on Day 7 of doubling my meds and felt really really really crappy the last few days but we can do it ... Just focus on one little joy at a time. My son started learning to drive today and the 4 of us are in the car and he literally went up the school curb 😲😲😲!! Scared us all to death! So every day is different even though we may feel down and stuck but do just a couple of things each day and be kind to yourself ok dear??

[sweetiepye]

Bethany, That is simply not true. Who or what has made you feel so bad about your self ?If people are judging you that is on them not on you. Critical people are usually as harsh to themselves as they are to others. You need to share a little more about yourself so I actually know what we're dealing with, but I stand behind this statement...you are not a waste of space. Pam

[Bethany_rachel in reply to sweetiepye]

I'm not good enough for any guy, my managers always moaning at work, I'm always getting moaned at at home with my family, feel like a failure constantly :/

[hypercat54 in reply to Bethany_rachel]

You are probably far too good for any guy if they treat you badly. Work managers always moan as it's part of their job description.

Why do your family moan at you? Often they do this because it is their way of showing they care about you. Why not have an adult chat with them to find out what their real problem is? You might find it's not nothing to do with you but because they are having a bad day etc. x

[sweetiepye in reply to Bethany_rachel]

You have been listening to the wrong people.

[hypercat54]

Not good enough for who? Not good enough for what? Who says this about you? This is depression talking. x

[MAS_Nurse]

Hi Bethany_rachel, and welcome to the forum. How are you feeling now? You say you are "not good enough". Please believe that you are good enough and you are not alone. Have you spoken to your family about how you are feeling or perhaps writing them a letter if you feel that talking to them would be too difficult at the moment? It may help if you make an appointment to see your GP and you can talk to him/her about how you are feeling, and help and support will be given. Could you do a small activity today that you enjoy? This will help you to relax. If you are feeling distressed, please call The Samaritans Freephone 116 123 [24 hour helpline]. Please continue to post on this forum where you will receive support from other members who understand. Thank you and best wishes.

[digginsa]

Hi Bethany_rachel, don’t let anyone think make you think your not good enough, family can say things that they wouldn’t say to friends and it can be hurtful, you are good enough it’s not important what others think x

[Finglas-Boy]

Hi Bethany; As us Irish say - "You're talking bollox"!! You are obviously a lady of determination, courage, self - esteem & integrity. I say obviously because you've had the presence of mind to post here & introduce yourself to a whole host of new friends. You are also NOT a waste of space.

You should & can be anything you want to be. Don't take a blind bit of notice of anyone who says different. They can't hold a candle to you & you'll probably find they're insecure, sad, boring individuals who are looking @ you & wishing they were you.

In my experience Managers will harass anyone they deem a threat so you're clearly an employee of talent, skill & ability who your Manager is scared of you taking their job - so take their fec#ing job! Report them for misconduct & show your employer you're more than capable of doing the job better than that eejit ever could! At the end of the day you now have a whole site of friends & great folk who will always be here for you. So give us a shout whenever you feel the need!

Go n-ithe an cat thus is go n-ithe an diabhal an cat !! 🇮🇪

[reinagrace]

Hi Bethany_rachel i haven't had that thought at the forefront of my mind in a while, but as a teenager long ago, that was a main thought that consumed me, that i was just taking up space and worth nothing. i still struggle with learning how to love myself and see myself as worthy, so i'm no expert on how to get there, but you sound like me when it comes to men too- so i will take a guess that you are giving your heart away TOO SOON (this is my tendency that i went in deep counseling for, to get over this pattern)-- please reverse this, guard your heart, and see it the opposite way- that no man is worthy of YOU, until he has earned your heart by treating you well and with respect and courted you properly for a long time. takes you on nice dates, etc without trying to kiss /get physical. works to get to know you as a person and builds something real. in that time keep your heart guarded, don't give your heart or your body. i as a Christian personally will wait for marriage but i won't get too deep into that. for now, please at least reverse how you see it- you are the prize that a man has to earn, and is not worthy of you till he has earned your heart. I pray you feel better