Good Evening all you gorjus people.

[Cara78]

I am writing this post cuz Christmas IS a difficult time for me as I am starting a new life without my family. I feel I want to dump everything negative about my past and try and move on. My family aren't the worst people in the world but we just don't mix well. I m

[Cara78]

.....now 39 years old and going through therapy and for me it isn't a good idea to be with them and they don't understand how they made me feel when I was young. It's no one's fault and I can't help the way I feel. My feelings are valid🙂. So this Christmas is going to be quiet and a time for me to reflect on what has been achieved(no matter how small) and what hasn't so I can take small steps to help me move forward. I also imagine myself as a wee girl and give her regular cuddles and reassurance and sometimes I need to cuddle the 14 year old me too. Like alot of people I've had a tough life and it is important for me to recognise the times I needed love most and then I imagine myself and cuddle me😙😚. I even imagine laughing with my younger me it seems to help😊this world is full of opportunity and we deserve a slice too. It doesn't matter the mistakes we have made but it is important for me to recognise it and do it different next time. The past cannot be changed but the future can and I Truley believe if I accept my mistakes and own them by knowing they were wrong then I can be a better person today because of that😉as some people continue to make bad decisions and not give a damn about the consequences.

[MAS_Nurse in reply to Cara78]

Hello Cara, I agree Christmas can be a very difficult time of the year for many people. I like your attitude though, that although we can't change the past, we can influence the future. As the old year draws to a close and we look forward with anticipation to the New Year, it is a good time to reflect, to move forward into new beginnings. Learning to love ourselves is not easy, but it is an important step. Learning to let go of the past and will help us embrace the future with hope.

What do folks think?

Take care, keep posting!

[Cara78 in reply to MAS_Nurse]

Yeah! It is all well me having the knowledge ☺! trying to put it all into practice will be challanging but i have to start somewhere and getting into education this new year will benefit me!

No alcohol will benefit me because I find that can make my depression or hypomania worse.

Happy Christmas

[denvajade]

Good on you for recognising what you need to do.

You are half way there. I too have let go of some family, sadly, but their negativity and not understanding how my child hood has influenced me has made me realise I am better without them. I wish you well.

[Cara78 in reply to denvajade]

Thank you for understanding😊