Hi, I'm one of the Ambassadors here and am just posting to say hello and remind people about the rules of the site.
As this is a peer support site with users supporting each other informally it's important that the site is welcoming to all.
Due to the informality i.e. No one here is a paid expert it's a site for over 16's only. If anyone under age posts then the post should be reported to Admin for them to deal with by blocking the user and referring them to age appropriate sites. Dealing with vulnerable children takes specialist knowledge and as such the best help is not necessarily here, but at sites where they can speak to professionals.
You will also note some recent posts from MAS Nurse about post removals. Again, if someone is posting clearly abusive, offensive posts then that's not tolerated. There is a zero tolerance approach to this and it includes swearing. Whilst it's hard not to express your anger in swearing, we ask you not to do it as other members may find it upsetting. This allows everyone to enjoy the site without fear.
Equally, posts describing abuse in detail should have a heading of potential trigger so that readers can avoid anything too traumatic for them. Whilst it's ok to refer to past experiences it's important that if details given that they are forewarned. Bear in mind that you don't know the audience and some readers have endured hellish abuse so they can react to a post badly if overtly descriptive.
Another point, if someone is appearing to require emergency treatment such as a clear account of suicidal plan, that post should be reported and the poster advised to seek help from professional sources such as samaritans and nhs 24. We have information in the pinned posts of agencies worldwide that can help. Again, the reasoning is about getting the right help professionally when in ultimate crisis.
Read the pinned posts regularly to look at resources for help and the guidelines of the site and community.
The site really helps and the rules are there for smooth running only.
Keep posting, keep replying and use private messaging too!
You aren't alone, there is support and recovery is possible.