Speaking to your Employer

[Mcbride2]

Having recently been put on anti-depressants and suggested councelling it means I need to have quite a bit of time off work. I've got a meeting with my boss in a few days to discuss things but I'm not sure exactly how much to disclose? Any tips?

[Satsuma]

I would advise to tell them what you truly feel comfortable with Mcbride2 You could write down some pointers on how it affects your capacity in the workplace. Are there any issues at your place of work which you are not happy about ? Are you getting adequate breaks ? Etcetera .. Take your notes to the meeting also so you don't leave anything out

[Mcbride2 in reply to Satsuma]

Thank you Satsuma. It doesn't affect my work right now but the only way to go to appointments is taking time off work and I know they would start questioning why if it's every week.

[Satsuma in reply to Mcbride2]

Right I see. I suggest it is best to tell them you are having mental health difficulties with some long standing issues and you need help dealing with them and the counselling is a golden opportunity to help restore balance to your emotions.

[Hidden in reply to Mcbride2]

Hi I had to do this at work as well and hated having to tell my line manager about my illness. But when you work it's something you have to do I'm afraid. I was lucky and was able to go in work time and not have to make the time up.

I would only tell your boss s/he actually wants to know and not volunteer too much if you can. You can reassure them you will make the time up.

[blackcat64013]

Hi McBride,

I highly recommend this article about a book Working in the Dark: Keeping Your Job While Dealing with Depression to everyone who is at work with a mental illness. I was inspired to read the book from cover to cover.

Working in the Dark

by John Folk-Williams @ storiedmind.com/depression-...

" If you’re dealing with depression and you realize it’s affecting your work, who should you tell? Your employer or supervisor? – or your clients if your self-employed? Why might you need to do that, and how might they react? Would they be understanding and helpful? Or would they no longer trust your abilities because they thought you were “crazy?” And if you tell someone, when should you do it – during a bright spell when your job performance is fine or during a dark time when you need to take a leave of absence? And what exactly should you say?

These are some of the questions that Working in the Dark: Keeping Your Job While Dealing with Depression tries to answer. I wish I had read this book when it came out in 2002. It would have been an important resource in dealing with my own crisis at work. Not that I was looking for such a book at that time. Even though I had been dealing with depression for years, I couldn’t bring myself to make the visceral connection with problems in my work life until the situation blew up in my face. This is a guide to prevent that from happening.

The inspiration for Working in the Dark came from co-author Fawn Fitter’s own experiences with depression and her struggle to preserve her business during a severe episode when she had difficulty meeting commitments to clients. When she looked for help, she found it difficult to interpret the scattered information she could find, both about depression and about workplace issues. So she developed this brief guide specifically aimed at workers struggling to understand how depression might be affecting job performance and what they can do about it.

The result is part how-to manual about depression and workplace rights and part sensitive discussion of practical decisions that depressed employees need to consider. Aimed at people who are aware they’re having big trouble but have no tools for understanding what’s happening to them, it provides basic information about specific symptoms, how they might be indicators of depression and the range of treatment options that should be considered. This is presented briefly, clearly and without assumptions about any particular course an individual might choose.

The idea is to offer hope for change to people who are confused, fearful of losing their jobs and seeing no way out except abandoning work they seem no longer able to do.

The core of the book is a thoughtful discussion of what employees who have learned about their condition can do when dealing with employers, supervisors and coworkers. The focus is on two elements: the Americans with Disabilities Act (and related laws) and the difficult human choices about how to talk to people on the job about what you’re going through. The writers understand quite well that many resist the idea of labeling themselves either as “mentally ill” or “disabled,” but they want people with depression to know what their options and rights are whether or not they want to make use of them.

The most nuanced discussion addresses the very human problem of figuring out who to talk to and what to say about your condition and its impact on job performance. The writers know well how tricky and risky this can be. It may be OK to talk with a knowledgeable and sympathetic employer, supervisor or client, but the problem is you can’t tell ahead of time what their assumptions, judgments, prejudices might be. Yet these are people holding your economic lifeline so you have to think carefully about exactly what you should reveal.

This is where knowledge of ADA rights is important because there are rules about what employers are allowed to ask and how they can make decisions about your job. Even if you have no intention of asserting those rights, that law has reshaped the workplace to some degree and established safeguards that affect how employers treat everyone.

But rights and law only go so far in setting boundaries and offering guidance. What about your colleagues and coworkers – what, if anything, should you tell them? How might they react if you receive “reasonable accommodation” and start working from home or get a quieter workspace or have different job assignments? How would you explain those changes? What happens if you say nothing?

The writers respect the fact that only you can decide what to reveal and when and to whom. They offer pointers about a variety of scenarios, even providing a few sample scripts to illustrate how much or how little to put out there.

Working in the Dark gets right to point and clearly moves you through the issues. When I first read it, I thought, Oh, it’s too basic – what can I learn from this? But then I put myself back where I had been when it first hit me that I was in trouble at work. This would have been the perfect thing to read. I hope others can pick it up before their work issues start to get out of hand."