Giving up

[someonespetal]

I have just lost everything I cared about, the people that i thought were my friends, the only people I thought understood me just told me that i need to stop being so depressed. My family has never understood me. I'm left at a stage where letting go of that last piece of hope seems really appealing. I really don't want to do this anymore.

[Elsibells]

Don't give up. Unless someone has experienced depression they will never be able to understand; and it affects some and not others regardless of their life experiences. You're in good company here with us and things will change, I promise x

[someonespetal in reply to Elsibells]

Thank you

[Hidden]

Hi it is unfortunately very common for those who haven't suffered from depression to not understand it. They don't see that if you could stop being depressed you would as you don't enjoy it one bit. It's like the remark 'Pull yourself together'. I have had that said to me and I have replied that I am not a pair of curtains!

It's not the end of the world though and doesn't mean they don't love and care about you - it simply means they don't understand so please don't catastrophise it. This is the depression talking and as these thoughts are negative they are false. We understand so talk to us instead.

You don't say whether you are receiving treatment for your illness? If not you need to get yourself to the doctors and get help. I know this is very difficult when you feel like this but you have to take action if you want to start feeling a bit better. x

[someonespetal in reply to Hidden]

I have heard it all multiple times before too it just hurts more when someone you truly cared about says it. I'm getting myself there slowly with the treatment and

[Hidden in reply to someonespetal]

Just because they love and care for you doesn't follow that they will understand depression. My 2nd cousin had it very severely and wouldn't come out of his room for over a year. My cousin loves him dearly but it totally unable to understand the concept of it. It doesn't mean she loves him any the less. x

[someonespetal in reply to Hidden]

It is not so much they don't understand, they know how hard mental health can be but for some reason they feel that my case is only to seek attention.

[Olderal]

Hello, Petal, yes you do need to stop being so depressed and maybe your friends could kindly pass on to you and the rest of us exactly how we should do that. I've been looking for some smart people like that for years.

Don't lose hope . Friends , particularly young friends , often don't understand depression. You sound quite young and young friends can often say things that hurt even when they don't mean to. Your depression will pass, although if you have n't already done so you should see your GP who might be able to give you some help in getting through this spell of depression more quickly. Hopefully it was a throw away remark and the rest just joined in. Having depression often means pretending to be more cheerful than we feel in order not to drag everyones' feelings down.

No one with depression wants to do this or anything any more , but we do, and eventually the darkness clears. It may sound unlikely at the moment but it will clear for you too.

Olderal

[someonespetal in reply to Olderal]

Being around the things I have, I grew up at a young age so sometimes I just wish people around be would grow up and stop being so petty. It has been one hell of a dark spell and its been two years since i remember being completely happy. Unfortunately it wasn't a throw away remark, turn out this person really has started to hate me for whatever reason and feels that I am only seeking attention.

[someonespetal in reply to Olderal]

Also thank you because that first of your reply made me smile which was much needed.

[Candyfield]

Hi someonespetal. Depression is bad.ive ad depression wen I ad my kids .and who I was married to beat me .so ended up on depression tablets .they did help me .it's a horrible filling strange lost crying .my mates was OK wen I was running bout 4 them .but I've ad mental health problems 4 6yrs now. I have nun stop telling my husband bout my pain my fear .I'm on anitdpresents 4life now coz I stopped um after 7yrs .and boooom I want Hill. Was put in hospital. I'm OK now .talking on ear help in way .people don't understand Hillnes .don't fill down u ant alone popit xx candy

[someonespetal in reply to Candyfield]

I'm sorry to hear you had to go through that, I hope that in the future your health only improves and I pray for your well being

[Candyfield]

Hi someonespetal. Thank you very much. U b OK I'v learnt one fing wen u got a Hillnes people don't get it .like come on get yr self out .I was like that b4 at burning brain.iv aways ad depression coz I've gone through the worsted fing ever .x husband toke my 3kids 9hrs ago .ant sin them sin.i did fight .but I never at eny family mum well she's a hornball mother she made my nerves bad wen I was a kid .she lives nxt to me never comes around .she loves me brother that raped me from 6 to 11.it come out after just lost me kids u wood fink let help candy no she tuned all my sister agenst me.it brought on burning brain.im OK got good husband. But I no he must get down me going on bout my Hillnes. He's never get a cold so he says come on .now he nos I can't just do that .but burning brain on hold .still head sor but I'm gonna start the Fri of gonna have good day even theo I'm over wait boooo I hide ha.have good day xcandy