Breakup

[Chantaltaylor59]

I'm 57, I've split with my boyfriend of two years and feeling very depressed, he was everything to me. Don't know what I'm going to do.

This is my first time sending private messages.

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Hi there I share your feelings of despair, my partner of 23 years walked out quite recently and I feel as though I've lost my right arm. I'm three weeks into being alone and still feel the loss like it was yesterday, people say it gets easier with time, but for the moment I tend to come and post on here and try to get it out in writing posts and reading replies. I can't really offer much helpful advice right now as it's very painful to me, I did sign off work for a few weeks, I've spoken with Samaritans and primary mental health team and my doctor. I try to pre occupy my mind but that is only a temporary distraction. Hopefully things do improve over time but if you feel anger, hurt or frustration or upset do post on here as someone will always offer good advice,

Take care of yourself xx

[Celtic27 in reply to Hidden]

Hi cjuk sorry to see things are rough for you just now the loss of any partner is hard especially a long term partner i dont think there are words i can think of that would make things better but take care and i wish you all the best david x

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Hi David

I can't even begin to move forward, let alone make things better for myself. I just feel tired of life, fed up and everyday feels the same. I want to throw the towel in and I'm ready for rest now but something is stopping me thankfully from taking that option though I think quite often about it

Hope your alright x

[Celtic27 in reply to Hidden]

Hi cjuk im sure you will get there sooner rather than later try and challenge. Your dark thoughts tell them your better than them ! I bet youve got friends you can call on ! I wouldnt like to think you will come out the other side so much stronger and wiser take care david x

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I'm so trying celtic27 but you get consumed in the memories I'm even dreaming now and they're quite vivid and surreal. Probably because I'm thinking so much about it. I want to go on of course I do, I know things will improve but at the moment it's all so hurtful and everyday pains me.

X

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Hi have you been to the doctor about your depression? Meds and/or counselling may help you. x

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Hello Chantal

When relationships fail we always feel lost and confused, I do not know how the relationship failed although I notice your partners age. In middle age we do have different needs and requirements and sometimes dramatic changes are taken when live can have more urgency.

Have you both discussed the reasons for this breakup or do you feel you need further closure of your loss.

If you are feeling so low and depressed talk to your GP and explain your concerns. I personally feel it is not medications you require it is support and the ability to discuss your situation with someone who will not judge.

We are always around to give support and understanding of what went wrong. So you can begin to talk out your problem if you have no-one else to talk to

BOB

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You are getting there

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yes true