Pessimism gives you an exaggerated sense of hopelessness. Optimism gives you an exaggerated sense of hopefulness. Both mislead and give false accounts and impressions of life.
REALISM offers a better and more robust account and impression of life—and a stronger emotional impact. More importantly, realism offers an AWARENESS of situations and facts (both positive and negative); albeit, with some uncertainty.
I have a theory that people who suffer from bi-polar disorder fight realism like hell. So they swing from mania (optimism and overconfidence) to depression (hopelessness) like a pendulum, never having the "tools" to sample the center.
Realism does have its dark side. Accepting an ugly reality. Accepting that there are limited opportunities that huge numbers of us are fighting for. Accepting that one has less value in a society (for example being gay, being black, being female, being old, being disabled, being poor, etc.). Accepting that life can be grim, painful, nightmarish and meaningless and that the only way you can be happy is to tell yourself some lies and deceive yourself. Delusions and ignorance can undoubtedly make a person happy—as well as COWARDICE. Defense mechanisms, such as denial, override doing or saying what is right, good and of help to others (the society at large) and oneself. Simply put, it’s a FAILURE OF CHARACTER.
CHEERS to being COURAGEOUS: Knowing the worst, accepting the facts, lacking prejudice, having morality, being creative, being sensitive to the feelings and needs of others, and feeling that it’s still worthwhile to go on!!
Education and experience, venturing out of one’s comfort zone, improves anyone’s value.