Pointlessness in depression

[LHall123]

Anyone ever feel that life is just pointless and your really bored of life it's really weird and uncomfortable essentially seeing as I'm only 17! And also I'm really fearful to grow up and grown old and die which makes me feel really sad can anyone help?

[Olderal]

As far as anyone knows life is pointless in the sense that whether any of us live or die makes very little difference on earth and almost certainly none to the universe. But.....

There is a point to it for you in that surely your happiness when happy is a pleasant thing and better therefore than a neutral thing like being dead. Also if you can increase the overall happiness in the world ,even when you are unhappy, then that gives it a point. This is easily done by being nice to people, giving compliments etc.etc. even when you're unhappy yourself.

Many philosophers and very clever men have pondered the point of life but as far as I know no one has come up with a good answer. Again however many modern physicists , many religions and many New Age people believe , all for different reasons , that everything in the universe is connected in which case your life may not be pointless , but a necessary part of the universe , just as your eventual death will be.

Anyway,if you're dead how can you win the lottery ?

Olderal

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Hello L Hall

When I was young I felt the same way although you need to understand we all die and there is only one person who will decide your Fate. At various periods of my life I was always questioning my Mortality. Now I am sixty five I feel the worry I subjected myself was pointless. Generally I felt that if we have to go to the other side we have no choice in the matter when called we go. Now I just try and make the time I have left as meaningful as I can to call life pointless is the wrong word and feeling to have.

You have so much to do when seventeen, experience as many possibilities as you can

I have travelled since I was twelve years old. When travelling in the sixties I was one of the first children the visit the old Soviet Union and I also visited with my school Greece and Turkey. I tried different interests and tried and sometimes failed at so many life choices. To fail is as important to achieve.

Would I try anything different earlier on in my life, possibly yes. To learn from experience is just as important.

What would I suggest ?. Take life by the scuff of the neck and live it like there is no tomorrow. If you become depressed your life could follow that pathway, Live it and do not worry. You are entering a wonderful age. ENJOY.

BOB

[TheAdr]

When you are depressed such thoughts come into the mind. As a psychiatirst, i often see young girls like you coming with problem of feeling bored and feelings that people do not love them, may be they are symptoms of hidden depression or any relationship problems that you might be having. Talk about your feelings with someone you trust and ease out your emotions. When your mood improves hopefully you will feel better.

Mind dr

[WantToChange]

I am also afraid of growing old. I worry that I am wasting my life. Although logically, this is stupid. I'm not necessarily bored as I seem to have a lot to do and am kept busy with the flat. But often worry about my age. I am only 25 and still have a lifetime ahead, but the younger years are slipping and that scares me. I've only felt like this for the last while.

Try to get a goal. Whether it's going to uni, or some kind of project. My project atm is my flat and saving up to get a new kitchen. What do you think your goal should be?

[ladeda]

Hi hun, I just liked reading the two replies you got and hope they gave you the hope and courage to know that your sadness will pass, we don't always know what we want life to give us, so moving forward can seem a struggle.

The one thing about being much older is, when you try hard enough you can remember the good parts as there so many of them, things that may have been so utterly pointless that you will laugh till you cry.

People will always come and go in your life and you need them, some will bring misery so just move past them as quickly as possible, knowing that they are struggling as well and perhaps making a bit of a hash of things, others will come and help you experience incredible happiness. You will also be the one that gives this incredible happiness to others.

So if there is any point to life it could be just to be open to some of the wonderful things that can happen.

Be inquisitive and don't be afraid to try new things, except failure as a good thing, remember how many times you fell as a toddler yet kept on getting up and trying to walk. We really do expect too much from ourselves sometimes, it is hard to shake off that sadness, but keep trying and maybe when you least expect it it will not be there and you can feel joy instead. Lots of hugs and I hope with all my heart your day feels a little brighter xx

[lindypalm]

I'm 35 and felt like that on and off for years. I'm still trying to work out my likes and wants. Life really is enjoyable even if it is a bit scary.

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Think about the exciting times you have ahead of you. I was really shy at school and didn't make a lot of friends and didn't really like sports either. My Mum suggested trying the local archery club. Archery became my hobby, which led to be becoming an archery coach I have travelled to India to compete and I won a medal there and I went to become a coach with the GB paralympic team and I was even at the Paralympics in London 2012 as a coach. I never ever dreamed I'd do anything like that when I was 17. I didn't even know what kind of career I wanted to do. (By the way my career was in IT and paid for my hobby. )

If you have someone you can talk to about your feelings that would be good for you as sometimes talking about a fear or worry can help. Understanding why you are fearful of growing up would help you to ease your worries. Also thinking about your dreams of what you'd like to do may help you feel excited about the future.

You also say you are bored, do you have any hobbies or clubs that you go to? If not why not look into taking up a new hobby. Some hobbies don't cost a lot to start. Have a look and see what clubs are in your area and see if any of them interest you.

You are at an exciting point in your life and I know it can be daunting, so take your time and have a look to see what may interest you and what you'd like to do. You could make up a list of things you'd like to do or see. Then you can tick them off as you do them and even add more to the list.

The one thing you can guarantee about the future is that everyone grows up and gets old.

My parents are both retired and really enjoying life and I hope I am as happy as them when I get to their age.

I hope some of what I have said is helpful.

Take care.

[LHall123]

Thank you as much guys! This has mad my day! And help me except this feeling! It's also really nice knowing I'm not the only one!