Feeling empty inside

[mygirl46]

What do you do when you have no hope left n your family n friends turn on you.

[WantToChange]

You come on Health Unlocked :)! All of us have felt like this at one point or another. Is there any way you can speak to your friends to men any fallouts etc? That may be the best way of going about repairing the relationships in your life xx

[mygirl46 in reply to WantToChange]

I'm trying im on fbk trying to talk to people i go to counseling 3 times a week and i research self help n try talking to spouse just getting no where and 2 grown daughters hate me for some reason the last yr n r now trying to turn him on me saying in poison

[WantToChange in reply to mygirl46]

Do you know what it was that made your daughters want to become estranged from you?

[mygirl46]

No they made bad choices and are blaming me the one who was always there where i would have to ask their father to do something for them as he couldn't b bothered. I became sick in many ways 4 yrs ago and it's been all down hill how they treat me.therapyst says they cnt deal w seeing me sick n not strong as I've always been n spouse says he understands n now wants relationship w them but wnt discuss me to try n make them understand

[mindblank in reply to mygirl46]

Hi OP,

Don't understand why your daughters can turn on you like that. You and your spouse are together or separated? It's not clear. If you were separated with their father estranged, then I would have guessed your daughters are trying to win some attention from their dad but if not, then I don't understand their motive. Sorry about this difficult situation.

[mygirl46 in reply to mindblank]

No we are together but struggling after 28 yrs n the 24 oldest daughter unfortunately shows traits is sociopath like my Mother n my sister was fetal alcohol baby 41/2 yrs older always blamed me for her horrible life n now is best buds w my eldest . Thec23 yr old has made horrible choices w men to stripping to sugar daddy's n since admitted what my instincts allready told me she since acts like she cnt face me as though I'm judging her n am not n shes always trying to compare her 23 yrs to my 46 which y do that. Different amount if yrs n tragedies . She also has Fibromylagia and bipolar and add

[secondhandrose2]

Hi

It's really sad to hear all about your families attitudes towards you. I guess once thing you have to come to terms with is that you can't change other people, only yourself. So, you are in therapy, good. In time I hope that enables you to be strong enough to tell your daughters to leave home - if they are still with you - unless they are able to learn to treat you with respect and feel some gratitude for what you have given them as you have certainly done your best. Saying that will feel risky, especially if you really do mean that if they cannot treat you with respect then you will not continue to be involved with them - but if you can mean it eventually then I think they will be forced into a position where they will have to choose to become adults or manage alone without you.

Suex

[mygirl46]

No thank god no longer live w me just hard cus Gandson who's 5 now from the 24 yr old lived w me for 1st 3 1/2yrs so we have a strong bond or i wuld have cut her off long ago now she uses him as a tool to hurt me like she did his father who overdosed on heroin last yr. the things these girls hav put me thru helped destroy my marriage as my spouse disconnected from them n wuld say why do i bother yet now he wants to b in their life not mine n doesn't stand up n tell them dnt disrespect ur mom that like when they were younger n raising together we were a team and now it's like im nothing but criticized by all of them n never included but rejected n told im negative n poison n on , everyday my spouse comes up w a new exscuse why he no longer has time for me latest is i dnt know how to communicate. Well isolate me more n make me more self conscious im afraid to say or get in his space . His perception itl all blow over n not as bad a littlte denial issue w whats really breaking down. And as much as i love him a bit of a narcasisst. And after 22 yrs being married out of 28 he beat me twice in one yr. kids blame me for that also. So lost n empty.

[Hidden]

It seems like they are all using you as a scapegoat and that is awful. I don't have any answers I'm afraid just want to let you know that I care and am thinking about you. If it helps you come in and vent anytime, there is always someone here to listen.

I have tried to tell my 3 sisters about my depression. My eldest one says 'um' then starts talking about how ill she is (she is a hypochondriac), my middle sister doesn't know what to say and my youngest one said 'what have you got to be depressed about?' I never say anything now.

Fortunately we all understand on here, thank goodness for this site. Take care xx

[mygirl46 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you this is 1st site I've fount that peep respond n not like a chat room all busy. I will come back and I'm grateful for your input. I'm sorry for your depression n how tour 3 sisters each redact . I dnt understand why its so hard for them to read on how to help rather than make worse . Even if i send it print it no one reads or follows thru. I'm always here to listen . Talk any time I'm alone from 8:30 am till 5-8 n then 9 pm n on as we haven't even shaed same bed on same floor in 4 yrs since we got dogs n he chose to sleep w them rather me. So i have all kinds of time to talk and listen. Would love to listen as then i can forget my own stuff for a bit. So I'm new to iPhones n computers as family always did it for me . So I'm teaching myself and it took me a bit to learn this site. So how do i know it's always you or someone else ? And this iS your site or ur member

[Hidden]

Oh and welcome to the site - it's good to meet you. xx

[mindblank]

Hi OP,

People are identifiable by their names, so you can see where it says bitchybitch2014 against all your posts, well I use the name mindblank and this is my second reply to your original post, and there have been a few others responding just check the names next to each reply.

It's great that you're teaching yourself how to use the computer/internet, it will give you a new outlet to communicate/find information/etc. The more you say the more it does sound like you're a scapegoat as somebody else mentioned. I really don't know what to advise, it just sounds like a horribly isolating situation. Do you have anywhere else to go, to talk to or share your problems with, any other friends or family members who haven't turned against you?

[mygirl46]

Thank your nd blank . You have been so helpful. Every site is so different n to navigate can take me hrs. I'm very grateful for your opinion as well. Just having communication is overwhong. No one to go to they are my only family. I dnt talk much to my moms r dads cus just ugly memories n always gotta ask of my criminal mother i detached from in 2006. on fbk but no one seems genuine n one i thought was seems to be giving me signals they want to b friends butane pulsates me got what they wanted n now will respond n answer on there own time so i feel I'm getting the brush off the one i thought i could trust . 28 yrs just kept to clients n family wanted what i didnt hav as a child was a loving functional family and all went south when they hit late teens n spouse started working out n taking supplements n now they're all so self absorbed. They act like just get over it not realizing I've been traumatized as a child n their behavior last yrs have triggered those emotions n i have had the wrong dr n med n doped up for 2 out of 4 yrs n now hav new dr n therapyst n diff drugs n just still coming out of it. I've turned into an introvert more than ever before. But feel hopeful w this site as there's someone really there during the day when it's the worst. So again thank you for the education n feedback.

[mygirl46]

Thank your nd blank . You have been so helpful. Every site is so different n to navigate can take me hrs. I'm very grateful for your opinion as well. Just having communication is overwhong. No one to go to they are my only family. I dnt talk much to my moms r dads cus just ugly memories n always gotta ask of my criminal mother i detached from in 2006. on fbk but no one seems genuine n one i thought was seems to be giving me signals they want to b friends butane pulsates me got what they wanted n now will respond n answer on there own time so i feel I'm getting the brush off the one i thought i could trust . 28 yrs just kept to clients n family wanted what i didnt hav as a child was a loving functional family and all went south when they hit late teens n spouse started working out n taking supplements n now they're all so self absorbed. They act like just get over it not realizing I've been traumatized as a child n their behavior last yrs have triggered those emotions n i have had the wrong dr n med n doped up for 2 out of 4 yrs n now hav new dr n therapyst n diff drugs n just still coming out of it. I've turned into an introvert more than ever before. But feel hopeful w this site as there's someone really there during the day when it's the worst. So again thank you for the education n feedback.

[mygirl46]

Dnt know how i posted twice n meant to say mind blank i think these smart phones r dumb phones . And do you just log out or delete somewhere ur conversations

[Suzie40]

Would you consider changing your user name at any point? It's a little bit aggressive and it makes me feel a bit anxious.

Why don't you get rid of Facebook? It's dreadful for fuelling family quarrels. People misinterpret each other, they like people's status just to annoy someone else, they block you, add you, hide you , tag you. It's ridiculous! I bet if it wasn't for Facebook, your problems would be about 50% less!