Be Good to Yourself

[Binky1]

I'm very aware that the weekends can be difficult for many of us, we think that we are the only ones who are alone & not having a fantastically sociable happy time with friends & family and that's not the case

So whatever you are doing, I wish you all a restful weekend & just go gently on yourselves

Big Hugs

Lesley xx

[Golfer15]

Thanks Lesley, you have a good one too. X

[Binky1 in reply to Golfer15]

Thanks David

I hope you've had a good week x

[Stilltrying_]

Oh Lesley what a lovely post and what a gorgeous cute picture!

I am one of the one's who can find weekends difficult! I have plans to go walking this weekend and next also but yes they can be difficult times when I don't make plans or plans go awry so thanks for thinking of us al l I will be off and on the site anyway over the weekend, so definately won't dissapear. I like checking in here and feeling I have good sensitive and meaningful company and also that we can help each other out with all our combined experiences Gemmalouise X

[Binky1 in reply to Stilltrying_]

Hi Gemma, hope you are well

I like hillwalking too but used to go with my ex & now have no one to walk with, I love the feeling of freedom & peacefulness being with nature

I've been asked out by some girlfriends tomorrow night but as usual I get stressed as my confidence is low so I haven't decided whether to go out or not, I'll decide tomorrow x

[SueBee60 in reply to Binky1]

I second the suggestion to join a walking group. You don't have to be madly sociable, you can walk along in peacable silence. I have joined a local one a few times (didn't have to pay, you can try it out) and the only problem I found was the pace they kept up! And a lot of them were a fair bit older than me. I live in the country and go for walks on my own sometimes in the week.

This weekend may well be the last of my lovely cat's life as he's quite ill and looks sort of dopey, like an old person with dementia might look. So we don't want to go far from him. He would be 15 in July so a good age! We shall miss him dearly.

Oh, and go out with the friends - you don't know who you might meet! (PS I am sure there are also singles walking clubs, you might investigate.)

[Binky1 in reply to SueBee60]

Hi Sue

Aww I'm so sorry about your beloved pussycat that's so sad for you. I lost my cat a few years ago as he had kidney problems, he was gorgeous and a little cheeky imp (Noah) so I'm thinking of you as that's tough x

Thanks for the suggestion & I'm with you as I don't know if I could keep up with them especially uphill !

I will look into it & the singles aspect appeals as you never know

Special Hugs for your beloved cat

Xx

[Photogeek in reply to SueBee60]

Oh Sue sorry to hear about poor cat. My little Shazza died two years ago, she wasn't that old but got sick and within a week was gone. It's hard when they get old and I hope he goes peacefully soon, you will be sad , but he had a good long life.

Hannah x

[Stilltrying_]

Binky, maybe an obvious question but are there any walking groups in your area? That way you could still go albeit in different company. It can be a bit difficult I know when one is depressed as you have to be sociable, but maybe if you start to pick up have a think about it for the future?

As for going out in the evenings i am terrible and only manage it couple of times a year; I would need to rest all day to do that. Yes, just see how you feel today and don't put yourself under pressure to go tonight; allow yourself not to if you're not up to it x

[Binky1 in reply to Stilltrying_]

Thanks for that suggestion Gemma

I used to go hillwalking in the Lake District, set out early morning, do the climb then have our picnic .. the views were stunning & the air was clean & fresh .. it used to make me feel amazing & alive

One minute I'm going out tonight and the next I'm staying in aaaaargh I hate being so indecisive

X

[Hidden]

Thanks Lesley, and I hope you also have an enjoyable weekend. Sue

[Binky1 in reply to Hidden]

Thankyou Sue & the same to you x

[Suzie40]

Hi Lesley, that was nice post to log in and see. I'm feelings. Bit anxious this weekend as I am going away next Wednesday for a few days and have so much to organise. I hope you are well and that you have a nice day x

[Binky1]

Hi Lucy

I can imagine you will be feeling overwhelmed with everything you have to get done on top of the way you will be feeling emotionally about the trip

Just try to pace yourself & do things gradually if you can

I find that writing a list of all the things to be done helps to keep me on track & saves me forgetting some things

I hope you don't get too stressed with all of it & take time to chill even if it's just a cuppa with your feet up for a bit

Lesley x

[juney_99_antique]

Hello Lesley, I have only been on this site for two weeks and it is so reassuring to know that there are lovely people like you out there! How kind of you to be thinking of others, which you probably do most of the time! I have a weekend cat sitting for my daughter - prefer that to child sitting! They are beautiful and no trouble at all and I know you would love them. My only regret is when I have to leave them on Monday! Anyhow, take care and look after yourself! June xx

[Binky1 in reply to juney_99_antique]

Hi June & lovely to meet you here, welcome to our special group

Thankyou for the compliment, that means a lot to me

There are a lot of kind friendly people on here who are very supportive & non judgemental which is essential for people like us who are struggling daily

I have only been here a few weeks myself but it's proving to be an essential lifeline for me so I'm glad you have found us and we will support you in whichever way we can

Aww you will miss the lovely pussycats when Monday comes for sure but that's great that you are there to help out your daughter .. the things we do for our kids .. I'm waiting for one of my daughters to come & collect a big bag of clean washing & drop off more dirty clothes I've offered to wash and dry for her haha we never stop do we

Catch up soon June & enjoy the pussycats

Best wishes

Lesley x