Afraid of touch after circumcision

[Garik]

Hi everyone,

I did my circumcision about 6 month ago to fix my phimosis. Before operation I haven’t had actual sex, I was afraid that it will hurt. With the masturbation I was very cautious.

Now after operation, even after half a year there is still more than usual sensitivity on penis head. I’m still cautious and very gentle with it. Now I’m afraid of having intimacy with someone, that they might hurt my penis, by being not that gentle. I’m not sure that I can have sex, as I’m afraid because of awkwardness and sensitivity.

Any suggestions?

[Man7Cut]

Like you I was very cautious about sex or masturbation for quite some time after my circumcision. I found that wearing a condom for both activities helped to protect the skin and sensitivity. Also it let me relax and enjoy it instead of worrying about potential problems. Maybe choose an extra safe or thicker condom if you're worried

[Moon007]

Hi I had a similar surgery on 24 January 2023, more than 20 months ago. I went to see the Consultant because of ED, never, ever did I complain about the the phimosis, never did I have any pain during the course of intercourse. Believe me I was frightened that with the tight fore skin I might develop cancer, so you can imagine your thoughts there and there and informed to perform circumcision. As a matter of fact, I informed this Consultant that I had seen four other different Consultants, 4 GPs within my surgery, no issue was ever discussed about the tight fore skin and phimosis and surgery. Anyway, after the surgery, all the lab results were negative, I have now been completed, totally and wholly grounded, lost complete and total erections since 24 Jan 2023. I have seen different GPs, different other consultants, none of them can pinpoint about this botched up procedure. Nothing works, such as Viagra, caverjet injections, vacuum pump etc. My life has been robbed and ruined when I am perfectly healthy with no other underlying medical conditions. Can anyone please throw any light to overcome this issue as I have written under this forum previously who may have experienced similar botched up procedure? Can you imagine the state of my penis is like a dead stone, there is absolutely no flow of blood to maintain erections. Even when I tried to masturbate, nothing happens, so no question of have any erections, which we all enjoy.

[Arclight1979]

I overcame my worries about sex/masturbating and potential pain by using a thicker condom to start with, and lots of lube. I also stopped using Vaseline as a protective coating at around 8-10 weeks - definitely helped decrease my sensitivity by exposing my glands to air and rubbing against my pants. On pants, tight briefs to hold things in place really helped too, and also meant my glands was in contact with pants fabric all day. We all heal at different rates and some of us take longer to settle than others. You got this.

[WgH420]

This is my forte. I was truly terrified about the circumcision beforehand, during and after. The glans were and still are a lot more sensitive than most people’s would be. When I say terrified, I mean terrified. I put the operation off for YEARS.

It’s still sensitive, I’ll start by saying that, but the vast majority of my problem was in my head (the one on top of my neck). I found that my fear and apprehension was actually far worse than the sensation itself.

So in the bath for example, it’s ridiculous, but if I don’t look at it, I can touch and clean and handle it. If I look I freak. I mean, it’s getting easier and easier by the day but that’s because I’m finally convincing myself that it’s not bad. I wonder if you can try that? [because it’s actually not bad. It’s weird.]

In terms of sex, I’m really lucky to have a patient and supportive partner. Something you might not know is that when you’re truly in the moment with a partner, you’re kinda over any pain or sensitivity and you just want to do it. It might ruin it the first few times when you get that passion, but your old brain kicks in mid way through and you think “this feels weird” and you lose your mojo. But again, it’s all getting easier.

If this is what’s stopping you finding a sexual partner, I understand completely, I had no partner for 5 years for that reason too, then I’d say try not to let it worry you. Be honest with whoever you’re dating - they probably won’t think the situation is a weird as you’re expecting them to and if they do then they’re too immature and you’re probably better off without ☺️

Main point here is that it’s a mental battle as well as a physical one and there’s nothing abnormal about what you’re going through. I hope you find your own way to master this 🫶

[dronist]

Cannot understand this experience post circumcision. I think sex if far far better after circumcision. Most women will tell you that they prefer it and it's a turn on fir them. Horses for courses I guess.

[Man7Cut]

Everyone's experience is different and there's a variety of them going on here. In my own case I was cut because I had to be, due to bad phimosis and although I was apprehensive early on, now that I'm fully healed, I love how my cock looks and sex is so much better.