I am 23, have never had sex, and am hoping to lose my virginity soon... I'm very keen and excited, but I am worried for a few reasons.
I think I have phimosis, but am also worried about being able to maintain an erection... I suffer from anxious symptoms daily as a result of a brain injury which broke a portion of my confidence. I occasionally fail to keep erect when I masturbate.
You are all great people and have helped me before, Feel free to reach out or comment 
Bro,I was anxious too like you. First get circumcision done. That will heal your disease. Then step into the best day of your life. Thats amazing.
Hi Max,
Well done for having the courage to speak of your concerns.
If I may, it strikes me that there are two approaches you need to consider to help you resolve your issues.
Firstly, you say you think you have phimosis. Get that checked out by your GP or a urologist and work through the treatment, if any, that you need.
Secondly, you say you're hoping to lose your virginity soon. I don't wish to speak out of turn, and I obviously don't know your intended partner, but I believe your first experience will be enhanced immeasurably if he/she is someone special to you, and genuinely wants the best for you; someone who knows you well, and appreciates your anxiety and will do what it takes to bolster your self-confidence, and help through what is for most men a rather anxious experience.
When the moment comes, I wish you all the very best for a memorable (for all the right reasons) experience.
SetteeSofa
Amazing your message! Thank you for that! i hope i can have sex with hard erections and have a full sex life. I'm Brazilian and it's very difficult to be a 24 years old virgin in such a sexualized country. I'm ashamed to tell women I've never had sex
Hi there. Thank you for such a kind response.
To my way of thinking (I'm UK based, by the way), there ought to be nothing embarrassing or shameful about being a virgin; quite the opposite, in fact. But I certainly appreciate why you would feel the way you do, especially if, as you say, your society places undue emphasis upon sex.
Take care, and all good wishes for your future.
SetteeSofa
I was a virgin until I was 29 years old and married a 25 year old virgin and it was worth the wait!
I was anxious too because I had never seen her vulva but when the time came my penis got very hard so no problem there. Can you do some more stretching of your foreskin to save having to cut it off?
Don’t overthink it. Just go with the flow when it happens. Communication and taking your time to find out what pleasures you both is paramount.
bro, I'm feeling exactly the same problem, the same concern. I'm 24 and I've never had sex. I'm very afraid of not being able to have an erection and I've had some erection problems during masturbation. I have a lot of insecurities and I feel like I'm missing out on a lot of moments. I'm trying to improve, I started therapy, I started training at the gym and I'm studying daily… I already feel improvements in my erections and libido, but I still feel insecure for sex. If you want to talk, I'm available!
we will make it!
I've only had sex with two people and one of them was myself! You don't need an erection to still have a good time. I met my wife when we were students and married in our early twenties. We didn't have sex until we'd known each other two years. My advice? : Talk to your partner and agree what each of you wants from moment to moment. My wife always preferred hugs, kisses and all over caressing to full penetration, but we both enjoyed penetrative sex best when we wanted to make babies. Luckily we had two when we planned them! If my erection faltered she would give me oral sex and she enjoyed stimulation of the clitoris with tongue and fingers if I was attentive to follow her guidance as to where and how to bring her to orgasm. Anyway, my point is it's a two-person venture and works best when you talk honestly and lovingly with each other. Now in our 70s we don't have sex at all with each other (I masturbate occasionally) but we have a great friendship after 50 years of marriage.
Some great words here. Take your time and do not stress over it, that will not help.Having Phimosis will not stop you having sex. I assume you will be wearing a condom so it will not be a problem. I advise to try stretching the foreskin which may help but visit Doc' if no improvement.
As for your first time sex, take it slow and easy. If your erection fails, don't stop, kiss, use your hands on her. The experience is more than just penetration.
Good luck
No erections after circumcision
Morning erections 
Circumsision and painful erection ( Peyronie’s )
Not able to hold erection 
My erect penis from above 
