Not able to insert in to vagina

[Mahi1]

Hi , when I am trying to have sex ,my penis does not go inside the vagina because the erection level of my penis comes down. Moreover, I feel that my penis is too thick and broad and the vagina hole is too small. I have circumised 2 y ago and my penis length also decreased. Is there any way out ? Please respond

[Luke1973]

You should really talk to your doctor in order to rule out any physical problems, but sometimes mechanics can play a part. If you have a particularly large or thick penis, or your partner has a tight vagina, then penetration can be difficult. You need to make sure your partner is relaxed and well lubricated, but be prepared to stop if it’s painful for her. I have an average size penis but it is quite thick, and sometimes it is more difficult to achieve penetration with my wife (who also has a relatively tight vagina) than at other times. I make sure that I give her plenty of foreplay and usually I’ll be able to get it in eventually.

If you’re struggling to maintain a good erection then that will of course make things more difficult. Try not to put too much pressure on yourself in case the anxiety contributes to that. Again, your doctor should be able to help with any erectile problems.

If your penis size has reduced following circumcision then that shouldn’t necessarily be making the problem any worse. You don’t say what size you were before and after but I wouldn’t have thought there to be a big difference.

Have you (and your wife or girlfriend) had successful sexual relationships with other partners and therefore this is a new problem? Or is this your only sexual relationship so far?

[Mahi1 in reply to Luke1973]

Hi Luke..thank you for your reply. I had sex with other girls[not gf] with condom that time I can able to insert in to the vagina. Now iam newly married and having sex without condom. Iam trying since 1 week and not able to penetrate..iam very dissapointed on this.

[circblog in reply to Mahi1]

It takes time for both of you to get used to each other, particularly if you weren't intimate before you got married. It's not all about penetration, just lie together naked and explore each others bodies slowly. Use your eyes first, then fingers, then tongue, then penetration. Sex is as much in the mind/soul as it is in the body. You have to meet each other at all levels. It sounds like your wife is inexperienced and nervous, it's your job to help her through this and build the strong connection between you where she's ready for penetration. I'm not sure which culture you are from but you could also suggest to your wife that she speaks to her mother/sisters/friends about this. There are big expectations about "first nights" and often that can get in the way of actually having fun in bed. It's the case in my culture too - there's a great film called "On Chesil Beach" about first night nerves and the difference between love and physical intimacy.

[xsevenx]

Mahi1 I am slightly confused by your first sentence. When you say erection level goes down, do you mean you are not hard enough for penetration? Or do you mean you are not happy with the angle of your erect penis and the direction it is pointing?

[Mahi1 in reply to xsevenx]

Iam getting hard erection but after fails to penetrate in to vagina penis erection level comes down this is hapening since 1 week i took tadalafil 5 mg as well to get good erection and also my wife was having first time sex with me

[xsevenx]

That’s not a great start for married life. Follow Luke1973 ‘s advice or consider seeking the help of a sex therapist. Good luck!