The accident:
I had sex with a woman in 2018 (I was 33 at the time - I'm 36 now) who was on top at one point and, annoyingly, seemed to only like riding the last inch of my penis. I kept telling her to be careful but she didn't really listen or understand that it could hurt me.
On another occasion, towards the end of 2018, she was on top again and didn't take me deep enough during sex. I slipped out several times without injury, but eventually she DID injury me when I slipped out she moved down with her body against the tip of my erect penis - all the force from her body weight was directed down my penis for a fraction of a second. I seriously regret allowing her to go on top now, due to her carelessness!
I was in a lot of pain for a few seconds and we stopped sex straight away. I didn't lose my erection, there was no bruising or any visible signs of injury. Something gave way due to the force but I don't know what it was.
I was lucky it didn't "break" my penis and there was no major injury - but something definitely happened. There are several noticeable differences to my penis in terms of support and stability when erect.
Symptoms:
- my penis used to point straight up to my belly button when I lay on my back with an erection. It now points about an inch to the left when erect. There is no sudden bend in the penis itself, it just looks like the base of it isn't supported equally on both sides internally, and so it leaves my body at a different angle
- unless my penis is 100% erect, it is now unstable at the base and I feel it wobble about at the bottom during masturbation. I've never experienced this before. It's not being supported in the normal way
- during sex and masturbation, I have to tense the pelvic floor muscles that cause your erection to point up (think Kegels exercises) in order to increase the support to my penis, otherwise it's so unstable at the base that it wobbles around and is uncomfortable. For some reason, tensing the those muscles temporarily supports my penis at the base and stops the base of it wobbling around during sexual activity. Maybe this is a clue as to what supporting structure was damaged?
- when my penis is just starting to become erect or even not erect at all, I feel a "clicking" sensation at the base, on the left side from time to time. It's like there's a ligament moving over something. It's not painful but it seems to be an indication to me of where the damage occurred. Maybe a tear on the left somewhere?
I can still have normal sex and women don't notice the difference, so this isn't the end of the world but it does make me quite depressed. It hasn't returned to normal and I have given it plenty of time to recover.
Could this be fundiform ligament damage?
I've tried to narrow down the problem by feeling my penis when erect with my fingers, and it seems that it behaves and feels pretty much normal if I grasp it at the base (as low as possible, pushing the tips of my fingers against my body) using my other hand. When I do this, my fingers are supporting my penis the same was as the fundiform ligament should be doing (and used to do, before my accident).
I believe my suspensory ligament is pretty much fine and wasn't damaged, as my erection still happens... but I suspect the fundiform ligament was either partially or completely torn/stretched by the accident, or maybe the ischiocavernosus muscle or another supporting structure was damaged. The reason I suspect the fundiform ligament is that it acts like a sling around the base of the penis and provides support against the type of sideways movement at the base where I now have hypermobility. If I grip my penis approximately where the fundiform ligament is, and try to do its supporting job with my fingers, my penis feels normal again.
I'm going to see a doctor and get an MRI or other diagnostics done soon.
Everything I've Googled just comes up with "broken" penises (i.e. tears of the tunica albuginea and corpus cavernosum, which are the tissues in the shaft that become erect) and that is not my problem. I have no actual erectile dysfunction (otherwise I would have treated it as an emergency and gone to the doctor sooner) but just a type of instability at the base of my penis that isn't healing by itself and is very annoying.
Desired outcome:
This doesn't seem to be a very complicated injury in the grand scheme of things. There was no blood vessel damage and no nerve damage. All that seems to have happened was some stretching/tearing of ligaments which support my erect penis at the base, inside my body. The penis itself seems to have been unharmed by the accident, fortunately. I still get normal erections but my penis is unstable and it's uncomfortable during all kinds of sexual activity.
Questions:
Has anyone experienced similar instability at the base of their penis following a sex accident that caused it to be pushed against the body when erect?
Has anyone had, or heard of anyone having a fundiform ligament injury? I can't find anything about it online but I think that's what I have, or another structure closely related to the fundiform ligament.