How to tell family about circumcision surgery

I’m 41 and going to be circumcised in Dec 11. My wife is going to the surgery with me, but I’d also like to tell my parents about my circumcision just in case there are any complications. How did you (or will you) tell your parents about your circumcision? Did you tell others?

[Adamjay]

No need to tell bro. I just did. Its been 8 days. Initial 7 days was pain n discomfort but now its fine.

[roddythescot]

There is no actual need to tell your parents anything as you are well past the age of being in any way dependent on them and your wife is there to help you. However if you want to say anything, you can just talk to them any time either before or after the procedure. No need for formalities and no question of getting approval.

[Ferbrizo]

You don’t have to but if you want to go ahead let them know, hey I’m going through surgery I’m going to need prayer. It’s on my growing area. For the last several weeks/months/years have been experiencing problems with the foreskin and it’s constantly getting infected and idk what else to do. Done everything I can but it keeps coming back, last resort is to get circumcised. I felt the need to tell y’all just because I want you to know what’s going on and if I’m not coming around for x reasons is because of that. I need time to heal and hopefully a speedy recovery, wouldn’t want to miss Christmas to spend with y’all. - something like that, but in you own way of saying things 😊

[Tegmanc]

May I ask you why you're getting it done?

Take care

[Hidden in reply to Tegmanc]

Yes. I have erosive balanitis and phimosis.

[Hidden]

What complications may occur? In surgical terms, it’s a very simple, superficial procedure.

[dronist]

No need. None of their affair. Wife yes !

[shane2801]

Hi Max,

I am 3 weeks post op. My wife and some mates know. I just told my dad I had to have a procedure downstairs. No further questions were asked. 👍

[Hidden]

The complications are so minimal unless you have some underlying medical problem. My mother wanted me circumcised as infant, father did not. I did not feel need to tell either one. At this time with support of spouse, I personally think that’s all you need. However you are one to make final decision regarding parents. At your age, why do they need to know? I mean you did not ask for their consent. For me, spouse and you are only ones needing to know-minimal complications-Good luck

[youngman1969]

Had mine done ,didn't tell parents, but a couple of close friends know ,its up to you who you tell

[vinu_vinu]

No need to tell, grow up dude.Its very minor surgery.

[Hidden in reply to vinu_vinu]

Thanks, but I don’t think I explained this right. My concern is really in letting family know that I’m having surgery in case anything goes wrong. I’m doing it with local anesthesia. I am grown up, but just considerate.

[Hidden]

Been 5 years and they don't know to this day. I haven't told anyone because I was ashamed of my foreskin. I was only one in my class with a foreskin and when we showered from gym class everybody laughed at me. When my last doctor, a female, would ask me about male health I just jumped past that area. She became my supervised for my job at clinic and we became friends. So my second physical with her I was nervous when she asked about the genital area. Again I tried to skirt around it. But she persisted. I finally told her I was embarrassed about being made fun of for having the foreskin and it was paining because it was always dry and cracking on the end of it. Sometimes the cracking went further in. She insisted to check it out. It was infected and she said she was glad to get me to finally talk about it. It was infected this time and foreskin was tight. I was so happy to have someone who was concerned about my health to persist to have things checked out. My provider told me after I have the surgery that she would find out what to look for after surgery because my surgeon worked over an hour away. This way I only had to drive 5 minutes to see her and she would make sure it was healing properly.

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Your doctor became your supervisor? Then when she was your supervisor she did a physical? Isn’t that a conflict of interest?

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Yes she became my supervisor. Yes the physicals were given just like any other visit. I don't think so because I had her for a few years before she became my supervisor. No sense changing doctors when I was already established with her. She has left the clinic to a private company this past spring so I am searching for a new provider. Have seen one but not sure if she is right for me yet. Only seem her twice. Seems nice but....

[SnipperSniffer]

It is not to late to change your mind.

[drew15401]

Odds are you will have NO complications after Circumcision and by the christmas holiday your incision will be healed on top. You will be able to function normally. Only YOU will see the swelling. There’s no need to tell anyone. I got circumcised at 18 and revised at 36. Only discussed it with close buddies who either asked or had similar concerns.

[RobCut]

As others have said it’s a very minor procedure, I think you are worrying too much. Had mine done at 25 and as I happened to be single again, it seemed the right time, so I just had it done and never told anyone. Nobody was or has been any the wiser, except for current and previous partners. Had mine done in London, went in on the tube and walked out about an hour later. Caught tube back home, rested for the afternoon, went down the pub at night and back to work next day.

Why tell more people than you need to?

PS; Circumcision was the best thing I ever did, had suffered a tight foreskin for far too long. Since the op my sexual partners have loved it that way.

[Titan21]

No need to tell them man. I’m 25 I just got cut 2 days ago. Only person that knew/knows is my wife. Less people that know the better I suppose.