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I’m sad, I can’t get satisfied when I masturbate.

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I had my circumcision done a year and a half ago and it decreased my penis’s sensation. I can’t get satisfied with the way I masturbate, I move my hand along the whole penis, shafts and glans but it’s so rough, I feel no pleasure at all...

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Have you investigated new ways of masturbating? That is usually needed following a circumcision.

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I’ve tried many ways.

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Hopefully some of our circumcised members will be along to help from their experience.

If I'm honest at first I was the same but I actually watched videos to see different ways of doing it everyone's different with me alittle lube or spit and rub on the head it's happy days do you use lube or try dry?? When did you have your op?

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I had my circumcision a year and a half ago. I don’t like using lube, it’s very messy, I always try it dry. Which method have you discovered?

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Same I never liked using lube but for me it really helped. Also I always start off rubbing the head and then playing with the shaft slowly then you know how much you can play with without hurting urself

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8thfloorben

I struggle too man. We're all different but when I had a foreskin it was the vice-like grip method going up and down at 300BPM. That doesn't work now! Much looser grip with a LITTLE lube ( baby oil is cheap and does the trick for me but only after trying lots of other products). Too much lube and you can feel less than with just enough. Another mistake I made was holding the shaft skin tight and moving it up and down, I don't have enough movement left for it to even reach the head. Seen some cut guys jerk off just using the shaft but I can't. I suppose I'd say get used to being gentle with it. Good luck, it's not the same but a great orgasm when you get there.

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I don’t understand how some guys can get orgasm without touching the glans, that’s just impossible for me.

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I done ZSR circumcision and it's day no: 36 today.

I started masturbate without touching glans and without any lubes. I feel great orgasam without touching glans. Actually my glans still 30% sensitive and i dont like if anything touch on my glans. I just use shaft part which feels me great orgasam. I still waiting for glance sensitivity go because feeling irritations when anything touches on my glance.

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I use the sharft and it feels awesome going slightly over the glans

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gavelmaster

I was circumcised as a newborn. I’ve always had to use lube, as I cannot reach orgasm without it. It is messy, certainly, and I don’t like it for that reason. I despise the doctor who did my circumcision because he changed the mechanics of normal sexual function. My mate is uncut and he never uses lube.

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You still can’t masturbate without lube these days? I heard the glans gets smooth over time.

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The glans of an intact man is much smoother and shiny than a circumcised man. The glans is meant to be an internal structure, covered with moist mucosal tissue. Over years of being exposed, the glans of a circumcised man loses its mucosal characteristics and protects itself by becoming keratinized with a thicker dry covering. I don’t have much sensitivity at all unless I get the glans moist and slippery with a water-based lube.

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jimfromcalif in reply to gavelmaster

Foreskin restoration will also restore your glans and much sensitivity.

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drew15401 in reply to gavelmaster

Same here, buddy. I got circumcised at 18 because of a long foreskin, which was always uncomfortable. My uncle had convinced me to get cut because he also had a long foreskin and had issues with irritations. He was circumcised in the military and was very pleased he had no more maintenance issues. I admit it looked much better and I wanted the foreskin removed. Downside is loss of sensitivity and difficulty masturbating. Just use a few drops of lube on the head.

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Not all lubes are equal. Try a silicon lube - not sticky + doesn't dry out. Or a good quality water based lube. The difference between the lube you can get in supermarkets and the good quality stuff was amazing for me. I've personally settled on a brand called ID, but there are lots of similar brands. Spit is also amazing. Never understood why people are always spitting in films, but that's why. The ID water based lube get's 'recharged' with a little spit.

I don't know about other guys, but for me the only area I've left with any sensation is ring just under the coronal ridge. So rather that moving up and down, I've been making a tight circle with my thumb and finger and twisting it. Can just about make that work dry, but I do need a little pain to reach climax these days.

Also, and this might be something you find uncomfortable, prostate massage is a very different but very enjoyable way of stimulating yourself. There are lots of good toys on the market, and some research evidence that it's good for reducing cancer risk too. I was very sceptical, and it does take some practice, but it's worth it.

Hope you work things out. It takes a lot to accept that your body is different and you need to adjust, but you can and you will. Millions of guys have satisfying sex lives when circumscribed, you will too.

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drew15401 in reply to en123456

Great info , Circumcision is a PERMANENT change. I’m glad i got it done overall. Less sensitive, but it looks better than an anteater! You learn to masturbate differently, but it’s better to be cut.

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en123456

Most of the manufacturers do small size packs either little bottles or sachets. You'll wonder how can it be enough, but you really don't need much. Just a few drops. I've always used Durex lube, and no disrespect to them because they're a descent brand, but the 'professional' stuff is on a different level.

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Flutterbies

I was circumcised shortly after birth, and I have no sensation in my shaft at all. Only the glans. When I reached the age where all my friends were starting to masturbate I could not. I couldn’t feel anything. Finally I was able to achieve orgasm by standing in the shower under extremely hot water. I would come out of the shower with burns that took a couple of days to heal, but it was the only way I could get off. Eventually I was able to train myself to cum using lube but only if I fill my mind with dirty and inappropriate thoughts, but even then I can only maintain an erection for about 60 seconds. I cannot have sex with a partner because I immediately lose sensation and go soft. To never have been able to penetrate someone makes me feel like less of a man, some sort of freak. I loathe the doctor who cut me. It’s difficult not to hate my parents as well, but they didn’t know any better and thought they were doing what was best for me.

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Palioly

Perhaps why it was invented in the first place ?

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Uncutdad in reply to Palioly

I’ve read that Quaker ( the oatmeal guy) was a religious person (zealot?) that strongly suggested circ as a means to stop the evil masturbation. Especially if a boy was left intact at birth then discovered masturbation , then the pain of post circ would “teach them a lesson they’ll soon not forget”.

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shortbeard

have you tried just a little lubricant? it is pretty much the same. you will get more mess from the ejaculata!

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