Help! Sex and circumcision

[Freddie65]

I’m really worried that sex is going to be an issue having had my circumcision last November due to years of suffering with phimosis.

Had sex with my girlfriend for the first time since the op and it went great until the actual sex act took place. After a while I lost my erection and couldn’t get it back. I was nervous about it as my scar around frenulum are is still a little sore.

Is it in my head guys and what can I do to help next time.

Thanks

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Soreness or tightness can persist longer than you might want. Have a chat with your doctor about it. You need someone like that to tackle the soreness and to stop you worrying.

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Hi Freddie, many of us go thru the same thing you're going though. it has a lot to do how you feel mentally. it happened to me, at the beginning some days sex was great and others were so bad that I felt like less of a man, specially when my wife kept asking if I didn't like her anymore. but cant let that get you down.

[Freddie65 in reply to Hidden]

How did you overcome it?

[Hidden in reply to Freddie65]

It takes time but its mind over matter

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That's right Joey

[Hidden in reply to Freddie65]

Hi Freddie, remember how you used to masturbate, it seemed like you learned how and after that it didn't take much effort to make it feel good, right?

This is pretty much the same thing, your penis looks and feels different and though you liked what you see, your mind and the sensation and the hand touch is going to feel different enough to make you work and put a bit more effort until you get used to a new way, the new you.

So find your self, play with your self, you're going to find ways that are more enjoyable than others. they you'll find ways, positions that are going to make you feel so good.

During this time of evolution you have to be a bit more selfish and find that satisfaction, once you find it, then you'll be able to enjoy mutual sex with your spouse.

Good luck and cheers to those long lasting hardons. keep me posted.

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I can relate man

[Freddie65 in reply to Hidden]

Thanks bud. Maybe I should not worry about it and just let things take their course.

I’ve got a phone consultation with my surgeon in a couple of days. Hopefully, he’ll reassure me. Just need to find a way to settle down the soreness around my scar and around the frenulum, which is the most problematic area. Hopefully, should be fine after that.

[Hidden in reply to Freddie65]

Unfortunately what they dont tell you is there can be a long healing time for example i had mine done in jan of this year and i stil get the odd twitch or slight pain but you just have to deal with it and in time i found its become easier and you start to except it more you will be ok