Why am I suffering from ED at the age of 30?

[Chet90]

I'm 30 years old and have been active in gym for the past 10 years. I dont have the best built but I'm ok. For 2 months because of this lock down in our country I've not been able to go to gym and resorted to home training (which isnt going to well) and I've gained almost 10 kgs. I've been having erection problems for a month now and its killing me because I dont have anyone to talk to.

[FreeS]

Hey Chet..

Im sorry to hear that.

Maybe you should look into your diet as it usually cures many issues and would surely make you lose weight and make you will fell better in general. A hands on advice, that I used for years working as a personal trainer is to skip a meal every day and to introduce more green/fruit to your diet. Etc. If you usually eat three meals a day as most people. Skip dinner and only eat a big meal in the morning and in the evening and then a light meal during the day only with fruit/vegetables and protein/fat like nuts, meat etc. But no carb.

You will lose weight fast with this method.

Hope it was usefull and if not best of luck anyways.

[Chet90 in reply to FreeS]

Thank you, I have started to change my eating habits but it's easier said than done when you have kids and you cant not have junk food in the house, unfortunately I have no will power against chocolate. But I'm in the process of getting a meal plan and a meal replacement to try and curb the extra weight. Hopefully this helps on that side of things. Appreciate the advice...

[FreeS in reply to Chet90]

Welcome.. And I know, its problaly one of the hardest things to actually do, thats why some many are working in the field. But I will adsure you it will be worth it. I litterally seen people cure things, that medicin couldnt just by changing their diet. Good luck and all the best.

[Biggie_McDick]

I feel your pain

My situation isn’t as extreme as yours, however, I’ve put on weight and my erections aren’t as firm as normal.

I think that these m are symptoms of the times we are living in. Lack of exercise less heathy diet, eating more food.

I don’t have a miracle cure for either of us I’m afraid. Have you spoken to a doctor about your performance issues? These people are professionals who deal with this kind of stuff every day. You’ll probably find that they have video consultations where you can chat about your issues without having to visit.

I was once referred to a highly respected doctor who said to me “eat more food” that surprised me until he went on to explain that he meant cut out the junk food and ready meals and snacks. I think that I’m needing to listen to his advice again and start cooking more. I’ll not stop the snacks but cook food from scratch in order to get the benefit of the food rather than have everything cooked out of it before I get it.

[Chet90 in reply to Biggie_McDick]

I actually have visited the mens health clinic International, because I couldnt stand the idea of me being a 30 year old with this type of issue. I need to go for tests for prostate cancer or the lesser alternative IBS because of the extreme flatulence. The doc has been giving me alprostadil injections because my test has dropped drastically and my blood circulation is off. But I've only seen him twice so far going back tomorrow. Thank you for the response

[Biggie_McDick in reply to Chet90]

I wish you the best of luck, tomorrow and in the future.

[Hidden in reply to Chet90]

Is your testosterone less than normal?

[Chet90 in reply to Hidden]

He didnt do any tests to tell me how low it is, but said that its caused by low test and low blood circulation. I should probably ask a doctor to test my levels.

[Hidden in reply to Chet90]

If he thinks your testosterone is low then that is a medical problem and should be investigated.

[Chet90 in reply to Hidden]

I'm in the process now of finding a urologist to go for a check up.

[Hidden in reply to Chet90]

Great. Hope all goes well.

[Chet90 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you

[Sunder121]

What are the problems u r facing?

[Chet90]

Well I used to feel for sex often but now its more of a mission, and I'm afraid If I do try that I'm not going to satisfy her. Or I'm going to make myself a fool. I'm very grumpy and irritable. I can achieve an erection but not as strong as it used to be. I use to smoke which I have stopped, havent watched porn or masturbated in a very long time and I dont feel like either. So to say the least I feel very unmasculine at the moment.

[Biggie_McDick in reply to Chet90]

We all have periods where things are less than perfect.

There is a chance that things will get back to 'normal' again soon.

Stress can have a big effect on the strength of your erection, I've been there.

Have you spoken to your partner about the way you feel?

Some guys tend to think that it will make you less manly to admit to having ED, no matter how minor.

Im sure that your partner has noticed that you're not initiating sex because of your fears. Perhaps a chat with her would 'lighten the load' She is probably stressing over why you've lost interest in sex. She may even be thinking that you've lost interest in her.

[drew15401 in reply to Chet90]

One problem is causing the other. You are stressed and that’s affecting your ability to have an erection. Not getting an erection causes more stress. More stress causes more erection problems. You’re also upset about the weight gain which adds to the stress. Many issues with ED are caused by stress. Try to make the best of the situation, start to watch your diet, and RELAX! Take it easy and go with the flow.

[Chet90 in reply to drew15401]

Thank you. I do beleive that's true. But I have a hard time controlling my mind for some reason. But if i could find my confidence again I'm sure it would remove half my problem but I'm too afraid of making myself a fool, and feeling pathetic.

[drew15401 in reply to Chet90]

You have to tell yourself that you’re a strong person and that you can overcome these TEMPORARY issues. You have to do what is best for YOU and not care what others may or may not think. DON’T ever think you are the ONLY one who has had similar problems. Don’t belittle or underestimate yourself. We are sometimes our own worst enemy.

[Hidden]

"Well I used to feel for sex often but now its more of a mission, and I'm afraid If I do try that I'm not going to satisfy her. Or I'm going to make myself a fool"

That is exactly how I felt for a long time. then I started doing more cardio, it helped on the sex part getting erections that lasted longer, how ever, sex being a mission I felt like that %60 of the time. my sex life was not the greatest actually was very bad.. but talking to my wife and trying new things and toys really helped. unfortunately my wife became ill and now sex is completely gone.

[Chet90]

Sorry about that bud, I feel as if I'm afraid to try toys... what if she likes it more... I csnt blame her if she did considering im not how I used to be. I'm trying with the cardio, hopefully things change when gym opens again.

[Biggie_McDick in reply to Chet90]

Try not to feel challenged by toys.

They are not a replacement for you, they are a way of spicing up the bedroom.

I've used a wide variety of toys over the years and have found them useful when she needs more than I can give.

e.g. When she's cum a bunch of times and we cum together and I'm beat but she still wants more. I'll use a toy to get her off again. This usually gets my motor going again and I'm ready for round two.

I've also used them with lovers who wanted DP with only me in the room.

They are now part of my arsenal of techniques to get my lover off.

[Wasserbrian]

Fat cells emit estrogen which suppresses testosterone. 10 kg gain will do that. You need to drop the weight and get more active by whatever means.