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This could be a post for a psychological forum but here goes.

My wife has always enjoyed sex, rarely saying no and often initiating it.

She does indulge me but generally prefers to orgasm and then sleep, which she does often ! But recently she wants it less and prefers a'quickie'.

Now when I am in the mood and she isn't I usually make do with a cuddle and turn over. I often feel like masturbating to satisfy myself but don't, in the hope the next day she will be more receptive. But if not I end up frustrated ! I find sex is not as good if I have cum recently so I hold off. However masturbating has it's advantage in that I don't lose my erection.

So, should I masturbate more or wait and see ?

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jaglad

Thanks for the input. We are both in our mid Fifties. Yes I know on occasion she does pleasure herself when I not around, however women do not need to get and stay hard.

I do need to look into ways of maintaining my erection.

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jaglad

Some useful info on there. Not sure I could cope with the 'full package' ring but will try the Kegal exercises.

Cheers

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richlandfarmboy in reply to jaglad

Hi jaglad, we too were also in our fifties when things came to a basic stand still. My wife no longer wanted sex and I didn't have any sensitivity left. After some serious loud discussions she relented and went to her gynecologist and had a discussion on sex after 50 and got a prescription cream with some testosterone to help with the dryness and libido and whole different attitude which help greatly. I had to do the research on me by myself since the doctors in the US know very little about the loss of sensitivity of the penis. I found it was my circumcision that was the culprit. I was circumcised at birth. I immediately started to regrow my foreskin and my sensitivity came raging back like I had never had before. It only took about 9 months to get enough coverage to get my sensitivity back and started producing my own lubrication that I didn't even know we could. Our sex life is like one I have never experienced in my life. The way God intended it to be. Even with the permanent loss of my frenulum and original foreskin sex is far better than I ever had.

I have one on one talks with other men about restoring their foreskin, but most are too squeamish to talk about it. In the US most people still have that Victorian age thinking and won't talk about thing like this. Especially here in the Midwest and South.

Kind of sad that so many couples have gone celibate because of this mass circumcision in this county.

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RB593 in reply to richlandfarmboy

Just read your post. How do you regrow the foreskin?

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jaglad in reply to RB593

Regrowing foreskin was not my post, but, I think it more about stretching what you got.

Good luck if you try it.

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RB593 in reply to jaglad

Sorry for the confusion, i was replying with a question to richlandfarmboy :)

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jaglad in reply to RB593

No problem. Hope you get what what you want.

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richlandfarmboy in reply to RB593

HI, This is odd that you asked about this 5 months after I posted it, but non the less you can go to norm.org (National Organization for Restoring Men)for complete instructions. This is an international group that helps men restore there foreskins. The instructions are longer than I wish to put on this forum. It's a large web site that has lots of information on everything concerning the foreskin.

Bro I guess it is because many of us young males failed in fingering or giving a handjob for pussy. If we make enough and a well handjob to their pussy, I'm sure the next time she will spread her legs and would ask you tool to be inserted and have fun. Do you know how to finger a women and make her squirting?

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jaglad

Edging can be good but I do worry I will lose my hard on and not cum after edging a couple of times.

But yes I can really make her squirt which I love. Even better when I giving oral !

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UncutBoy in reply to jaglad

Good for you mate 👍

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UncutBoy in reply to jaglad

Love edging, as it leads to a powerful orgasm....do it most of the time when I wank off

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UncutBoy

You recommend the cock ring for you then NOWHARD?

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jaglad

Not really important but I have just received notification about the replies on here.

Any idea why ?

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UncutBoy in reply to jaglad

What sort of notification mate?

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jaglad

Normally when someone replies to a comment I receive an Email telling me.

But for some reason I recently received a batch informing me of replies made weeks and even months ago ?

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UncutBoy in reply to jaglad

That’s odd, dunno mate!

But I’ve only been on here a few days.

Great site and really enjoying the chats mate 👍

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tanokosohana

Only sex. Nothing else. Masturbation makes my life much more squeezed than sex. When I see a nice and a lil hairy pussy, I want to fuck her. It's a lil bit hard to notice that there are a lot of people who want to make a lot with the pornography industry. I think escort services appeared because of prostitution and pornography actually and since there are a lot of people who love to have sex, escort is a great idea. Personally, I like to order an escort service babesoflondon.com/ since there are a lot of girls that wanted to have nice sex with a single man, like me. What else should be?

jaglad profile image
jaglad

Sex is the best but sometimes we need an outlet.

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UncutBoy in reply to jaglad

Defo mate 👍

Your cock is your hands best friend

Get the lube out and get pulling

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Thats very true caravanAl

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UncutBoy in reply to

Yep defo mate 👍

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Nudecock1066

Definitely enjoy masturbation as well and don't feel guilty about it! My wife and I still love fucking together, but things are hectic in the week and we only get to manage it at the most once a week. In the week I get very horny, missing her juicy cunt, and have enjoyed a wank at times to release the tension. I used to keep it a secret from her that I enjoyed a wank in case it made her guilty of not being to satisfy me completely.

However I have decided not to make it a secret from her. I have to take a viagra to keep my cock hard which takes about 20 minutes. As we lay in bed together waiting for it to kick in, I love to now openly wank my cock next to her to get my fucker hard and seeing her out of the corner of my eyes watching me wanking.

Now I have gone a stage further. My wife gets up early to go swimming and always comes up to the bedroom to kiss me before she leaves the house. We always sleep nude in bed. I now feel confident to have the bedcovers thrown apart, my legs apart and to be vigorously wanking my fucker as she kisses me goodbye. I notice that her kisses are a bit more intense, so it looks like she enjoys seeing me enjoying myself!

So don't hold back wanking and enjoy both fucking and wanking! And don't be ashamed of your wife knowing that you enjoy wanking as well!

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UncutBoy in reply to Nudecock1066

I like it mate, very fucking horny

jaglad profile image
jaglad

She knows I do it , but if she were around it would lead to full sex anyway. I do like to wank while I watch her though 😜

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UncutBoy in reply to jaglad

Hello mate, me too, as we’ve discussed before 😉

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jaglad in reply to UncutBoy

hang on there uncutboy !You saying you like watching my Wife too ?

😆

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UncutBoy in reply to jaglad

Haha, sorry mate I didn’t mean that, although never say never pal lol 😂😂

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jaglad

We can all fantasise. Even Mrs, it keeps us active and healthy.

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UncutBoy in reply to jaglad

Defo mate for sure

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