Afraid

[NewHistory]

Today my mother and stepfather told me my older brother will probably have to move back in. A few months ago this brother burst into my room while I tried to keep him out pushing against my door, shoved the door into me and against my dresser, and destroyed everything in my room over an argument about whether or not I ate one of his cookies. His force broke the entire top hinge of the door off in the process and I had broken glass stuck in my feet for almost two weeks after. For a while after I went into constant stress and panic. I'm so scared of him and I'm dreading this. I don't have money to move out. I don't know what to do.

[Chofum]

I’m my lord you poor thing , times are very tough for so many people now, do you have a job? Are you in school?

[NewHistory in reply to Chofum]

I do have a full time job and I am in my second year of college, I graduated high school in 2023.

[Chofum in reply to NewHistory]

That’s good hang in there hopefully soon you can get your own place , i know how difficult that can be

[Herewegoagain12]

I would look for resources available for women who are abused, also can you qualify for student loans since you're in school? My daughter was able to get enough to share a small place near campus with a roommate. I have been through living in a house where every footstep i heard near my room sent me into a fear I'm not sure people can understand if they've never been through it. Feel to contact me if you need to talk it through. Also the college should have resources for referral or emergency housing. It's important to use that fear to focus on getting a safer place to live.

[SoporRose in reply to Herewegoagain12]

Absolutely talk to your advisor or someone in student services. Herewegoagain12's advice is spot on.

[NewHistory in reply to Herewegoagain12]

Thank you so much, this is really helpful. I'm researching all my options and will consider those you recommended. It's a difficult transitional period for me with school as I am finishing my two years at a community college, though I'm not going to be finished and transferring to a university until the Spring semester of 2026. I'm going to figure something out, I'm not willing to let everything I've worked for go. I wish you & your daughter the absolute best.

[Depressed_Individual]

I am sorry you are so afraid. Your older brother obviously needs some help. Do your parents not step in when he acts like that? Do you have any other family that you can stay with? I hope things work out for you. Sending positive vibes your way

[hypercat54]

Are your family aware of what he did and how afraid of him you are? If not sit down and have a talk with them.

Maybe they will help you with the money side so you can move out? Its awful to have to live with this kind of fear and you deserve to be safe.

Could you also put a good lock on your door too?

[Herewegoagain12]

How are you doing? Have you found help or a safer environment? Is your brother home?

[NewHistory in reply to Herewegoagain12]

He came back around 4 days ago. They told him not to come yet but he just did anyways. I've been talking to my mom & stepfather a lot about what we'll do, they're really only letting this happen because he's aiming to join the military soon and it would be his last chance at a decent living as he has destroyed or fled all other good opportunities and burned nearly every bridge with every person in his life since his childhood. I get so scared and sick when I feel I am about to be near him I run away and hide in my room. He is already being dismissive to people in the house and yelling. He's unwell and severely unintelligent and I do not think he will make it to the military. I am away from home a lot but still looking for somewhere else to go. I just already am starting to feel cloudy and exhausted and aimless like before.