Hi everyone, I'm posting this in the hope of getting relevant advice.
Last Fri, I went out for the 1st time in a while with a friend. We went to a Italian restaurant in Covent Gdn that had a comedy club.
My friend & I were convinced by the promoter to go to the comedy club. We sat & waited 45mins for start, by then my anaemia kicked in, the meal digesting & my ladies monthlies (which I hadn't had for mth) kicked in & made me sleepy.
I was yawning & falling asleep. The promoter was the 1st comedian & targeted me & said "I hate m/c black bitches who just come to look at me & don't get involved". He was staring at me. I've got hearing problems & wasn't sure about what he'd said. My tiredness led me to be confused. He called me a bitch again but I was too tired & low on energy to respond. He asked me if I thought the last joke was funny. I told him "I didn't hear it all as I've got hearing problems & you chat quickly (Russell Brand style) that's why I'm not responding". He said "You can't hear properly & I've been picking in you. I'm such a dick". I replied "Yes you're a dick".
I deal with this a lot with strangers when I don't react the way they want me to (cos I'm unwell). I've had anaemia for 7mths now, it's sucked the life out of me but after 2mths of feeling exhausted, I can socialise every now & again. The fact that because I don't laugh at people's jokes or not very chatty is obvs their issues not mine. I stopped talking to strangers about my health as I have 4 conditions, it's complex & draining for me to time about it. Besides if they don't care about me, what's the point?
Awkward interaction with people is more common for me now, cos of my health & I take a lot of meds.
When I'm well, I don't mind educating people about Lupus but I'm low on energy at the moment.
Do you talk to strangers about your health conditions when you feel unfairly judged?
Some strangers are emphatic & some just don't care. Right now, I'm just trying to cope but situations like that are confusing to me.
Do any of you experience similar situations?
I don't usually allow the view of others but I'm unwell so I'm feeling hyper sensitive