I've been reading posts on here for a week or two, since my mum was diagnosed with terminal non-small cell adenocarcinoma (both lungs and 2 spinal mets T5 and T9 - we have been told stage 3 as the mets are quite close to the primary) about 3 weeks ago.
All the posts are so compassionately and empathetically written, it is reassuring and comforting to know others are going through the same emotions as me. Thank you all.
My mum has been offered pemetrexid and cisplatin as palliative chemo and the oncologist said textbook prognosis is 6 months if left untreated and if she has chemo and the cancer responds it may give her another 3 months on top of that.
My mum has performance status 0, mild hypertension controlled with a blood pressure tablet and no other conditions. She is very scared about the prospect of chemo and prolonging the inevitable and at the moment leaning towards not having any chemo.
She is terrified of being in pain and also side effects from medication.
I wondered whether anybody had experience of these drugs - I'm a pharmacist so have read up on them a fair bit but nothing substitutes personal experience (although I know everyone is different). Also, whether anybody had experienced, or been close to somebody, who struggled to make a decision between having palliative chemo or not.
Thank you to anyone who has read all of this - I hadn't intended on such a long post, and also to anybody who takes the time to reply.