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[Starrlight]

I want to get them over with. I’m so very capable of what I need to do and my heart is in it but I care so much that it scares me. It’s not a terrible thing it’s just speaking up and asking questions to staff at the kiddos school...not typically a big deal but my anxiety is making it almost impossible. I want to get out of the house and get to where I need to go but if I’m really anxious maybe I’ll wait for a good day. I have amazing days where I can take on the world and days I can’t get out the door. Common sense tells me to wait and see but see the longer I wait the more worked up I may get about it. Most of all I am writing because even though I am a bit paranoid at this time in life I mostly trust when writing here to you guys who understand this sort of thing. To release my concerns to people who are amazing and who I care is the most helpful thing I can do right now. Other than that I’m taking deep breaths lighting pretty incense and trying to calm down.

I have been having this overwhelming feeling that something terrible is about to take place. My intuition used to be easy to read but with anxiety’s false alarms I barely know when to trust and when to disregard. I hate this. I want to feel to see to know it’s scary not knowing ha the unknown I guess usually we can’t know.

[Hidden]

Hello Starrlight

I totally get what you are saying

When I have things to do I build them up and up till what should be simple becomes a terrifying but that is just what anxiety want's to happen and do we let it win ?

I have agoraphobia which crept up on me over 15 years ago , don't go down that road , I wish someone had been about and picked up I was and told me what would happen , as long as you are getting out and only some days you don't then that is fine but if you start to find you are stopping in more than going out then nip it in the bud as we say and force yourself out , I wish I had , now it feels impossible

OK make that list you want to ask the teachers at School

Remember they are just like you , human , they may be called a teacher but no more important than you are as a Mother which is the most important job in the world and that is why you are wanting to go and speak with them because your job is to make sure any concerns you have over your Children you address

The longer you put it of the worse the scenario will become , so I know you can do it , you got them moved into a better class you can do this

There is a saying we have

Don't put of till tomorrow what you can do today

I try and remember this and I have some things to deal with so going to keep telling myself this during the week and I know once I have sorted them it will be one less worry and weight lifted from my shoulders and it will be one less for you to

Take Care x

[Starrlight in reply to Hidden]

Thank you sooooo soooo much Lulu! I’m going to find out what schools my son has available to him for middle school years...cry cry my baby is growing up. I will plan to go in tomorrow morning. I have things in place to make it easy for me so it should be a breeze I am feeling better about it now. I do have a new worry to take it’s place though 😂 but I won’t bother writing about it because I think it’s just me thinking up silliness.

I’m sorry you struggle with the agoraphobia. Is there anything that does get you outside? Like to sit and get some sun? Thanks for the tips. During the holiday I didn’t have to go many places so I guess I sealed myself off from the world.

You are awesome Lulu I thank you so much for your encouragement wise words and for caring.

[Miniwheats]

Hi Starlight. I know this is gonna sound strange, but I read a self help book on how to influence people and how to handle yout fear in highstakes, nerve-wracking interactions and here's a few things it suggested....a few minutes before the interaction go into a bathroom or other private area and spread your arms out over your head in a V and spread your legs out in a menacing stance (as if you're trying to scare away a wild animal)- the posture is supposed to give a surge of confidence. During the interaction, keep your arms uncrossed and away from your body with palms up (makes you appear reasonable and confident and will make the other party less defensive towards you), and lastly don't tell yourself to calm down in the minutes leading up to the moment rather tell yourself you are excited about the meeting, because you won't be able to bring your state of arousal down but you will be able to change the polarity of your attitude from negative to positive. Go forth and be brave like a grizzly bear! You can do it!! 🐻 And remember to argue universal principles like fairness, respect, opportunity etc rather than positions.☺️

[Starrlight in reply to Miniwheats]

Wow 😮 that is right up my alley; I just love the pose you describe, I can see how it would be helpful. Yes I am excited to get information. Thank you thank you so Miniwheats!

[Miniwheats in reply to Starrlight]

You're welcome Starlight!😊