Help. Negative thinking is driving me insane.

[LuthienRB]

Hi, this is my first post on this app.

I’m 29 years old and I’m currently attending individual therapy and a therapy group once a week (haven’t been to group in two weeks though, but I’ve been religious about my individual sessions).

I have always been a sensitive person, very emotional, logical too, but I have a terrible tendency to picture the worst case scenarios in my head. I evaluate every possible situation and outcome and I usually focus on the ones that would be more painful to me.

This has always affected me in my romantic relationships because even when things are going great it’s like my brain says to me “hey, sure he’s amazing BUT... what if he changes and hurts you? What if he gets tired of you?” Etc, etc. This has created some serious trust issues in me towards almost everyone.

I need to stop overthinking. I’ve tried meditating and sometimes it helps a bit, but the self-sabotaging thoughts keep coming back to me sooner or later that same day. I talk to people, I’m open about this.

But lately it’s been driving me insane. I’m having nightmares, recurring negative thoughts, incredibly low self-esteem and it’s now affecting my relationship with my boyfriend, who happens to me an amazing man and we have plans of getting married and he’s very understanding, empathetic and loving. I just don’t want to look at EVERY LITTLE THING and make it into an end of the world scenario.

Does anyone have advice as to how to deal with obsessive negative thoughts? Please. It wasn’t as bad before, but the past couple of months have been very difficult for me and it’s affecting my everyday life.

[Hidden]

Hi. I’m sorry to hear of how this is affecting you.

Have you discussed it at your individual therapy session? Sounds to me like it would be a good thing to do..

Welcome to you, I’m glad you found us.

Best wishes to you.

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[LuthienRB in reply to Hidden]

Hello! Yes, I am very open about this to my therapist and my close friends, my boyfriend is aware of this happening as well. I just have a very hard time lately, I second guess everything and it’s like I can’t enjoy the present.

[Hidden in reply to LuthienRB]

Yes it is awful. I can do this too..

Have you checked out mindfulness..it takes time to get used to doing it but it does help, don’t think there’s any quick fix, although I do think we can learn to better manage it over time, you are aware of it and you talk about it , that’s good...

Did your therapist make suggestions...

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