Anxiety

[Mandy950411]

Hi there I'm new to this group have suffered with anxiety for quite sometime along with other health problems my anxiety is really bad I speak to a therapist on a weekly basis through talking matters but no matter what I do or try nothing seems to help me xx

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Hello Mandy950411 & Welcome

This seems to be a very quite Community at the moment so not sure how many replies you will get and I hope you get more than mine , but meanwhile I also hope my reply will do

I am so sorry for everything you are going through , I have briefly looked at some posts you have written and my heart goes out to you

I get Fibro , but nothing like you are dealing with and I can only imagine the pain you must be in and when I think back to my worst flare up's I have had with Fibro I do honestly feel for you and I get that been left feeling like you are drugged up is not always the answer and you need to insist that you be referred by your Doctor , you have that right even though some just throw the painkillers out and think that is enough but it is not

I know you may feel so worn out that you don't have the strength to push for the support you need but I also know people like us somewhere have that fight in us even when it feels like the very last fight we have we always muster the strength from some where so please find yours and if the Doctor you see is not listening see another one in the same surgery and ask them to refer you , if you could get your physical symptoms more manageable I believe this helps with the mental health issues and makes us better equipped to deal with them

I also briefly read you had lost a child and as a Mother I can only imagine the pain you must feel , you have certainly had more than your fair share to deal with and I wonder if this has triggered or made your Fibro worse as they do say trauma is one of the causes that males the body react to either trigger or make Fibro worse

I hope I have got it right as I only had a quick look at some of your posts so I could better reply to you but I believe you have a child about 6 years old that you feel guilty because you cannot do the things like other Mums do

Let me tell you I do understand that feeling but I also know that no matter what your child will think you are the best Mum in the world and will love you just the way you are , the precious thing about a child is they love you unconditionally , to just know you are there , how much you love them are the main things a child needs and I am sure no matter what you do that

Children adapt and your illness your child may have known no other so for them it is normal , please do not feel guilty , if you had cancer would you be feeling guilty because you could not do the things you wanted to ? this is no different so please try and be kind to yourself and give yourself the time you need to get in a better position mentally and physically

Take one thing at a time and I seriously would start by getting that referral for you Fibro

Let us know how you get on

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