Patiently waiting

[29beckie]

So I had my appointment with consultant couple of weeks ago , he doesn’t see the need to do anything more than an ultrasound until next year as I already got pregnant is sept 2019 but MC which is really frustrating as I’m so impatient, I had my ultrasound today so will have to wait till aug for results with consultant to make matters worse my husbands semen test came back with sperm defects now he is on a self distruct and doesn’t want to talk about it to me .

This journey is only going to get harder an I feel like we can’t even get past these first hurdles

[Loraine7]

Oh, honey, I'm so sorry you're facing this. The first steps are always the hardest to do. But whatever happens since now, you benefit from it..This might sound weird to you now, but even every failure makes you closer to your success. I'm sorry you experienced mc, this must be heartbreaking. Still you've found strength to continue moving this path which makes me so much proud of you..you don't give up. My story differs from yours. I've never been able to carry pregnancies myself. as I suffer a severe heart disease..and pregnancy would kill us both. So we had to seek luck through surrogacy. My only pregnancy passed in pics and videos for me..very strange feeling. But I'm THANKFUL for every god's bless. Even though I couldn't carry my LO myself, I could still use own eggs for the procedure and keep the genetic relation to my sweet bean. I'm sorry if my story makes you feel sad, I never meant. What I wanted to say is that everything's possible. Honey, I'm praying for your soon luck. May August bring you the very best news. Hugs xx

[29beckie in reply to Loraine7]

What a great alternative way for you and your partner to get your happiness, I’m open to trying anything as long as we get get our end result, we’ve had a lot of hard times over the past two years non baby related an it just seems life keeps knocking us down. Onwards and upwards I suppose thanks for the kind wishes xx

[MamaVe]

Sorry for all the ordeal you've been through... hugs for you. A pregnancy loss is really something terribly tough to cope with for me it's a new kind of living in the hell till maybe you're pregnant again and at peace with the past. I hope you find the strength to get past the grevious loss and come out strong.

I didn't quite understand your post though. You got pregnant in 2018 maybe or you meant you were due in sept. 2019? If you've been to the consultant why a simple USG have to wait for a year? You should ask this to your consultant on the first place. Rest, depending on how long you've been on TTC and what all supplementary process have you tried so far to improve your chances will define how you can urge your consultant to do more than just USG observations. Sorry. For instance, if you've been trying for over 2 years then assuming you've had a USG more than once already they should look for more in-depth diagnostic procedure to find other factors that could have been contributing to your infertility. Repeting a mere USG one more time definitely won't get you much to work on. I wish you luck for getting through this struggle quickly!

[Mel77]

I'm sorry to hear about your first hurdles. We passed de ivf last year. Choosing between transferring 1 or 2 was one of the crusial moments really. Finally we stopped at 2 beautiful 5-day blasts. You'll probably get lots of different responses. If you're healthy and are okay with twins then why not to try putting back 2. I personally believe it's your decision. Obviously, there are risks but many go on to have twins with no issues. For us it was sth like boosting chances. Unfortunately, I got prego with 1 only, another one vanished. Though both they were excellent blasts...Our hurdles differ, but we all are here to support each other, aren't we. Sending you my strong virtual hugs xx

[Karinyaa]

Hi dear. While waiting, honey, try some improvements to the life style. For example, have diet with foods rich in zinc content to ensure better maturation of egg and sperms. Take adequate rest. Drink plenty of water. Be in regular monitoring and follow-up with your treating doctor/gynecologist and report any new/abnormal symptoms immediately. Incorporate exercises in daily routine to promote weight loss to be in ideal weight for height range. Maintain low fat and low carb diet. Be good to yourself. Find distractions – be this some hearty talks or walks with your second half..everything which just makes you feel better. Hope for better. But stay realistic – this path may seem overwhelming at times. You have to keep stong!! I'm wishing you the best of luck and support on your way. Hugs x

[andylins]

Hi honey. I've always wanted to get on the boards with people going though the same and work out my feelings. This helped me so much.

A little bit about our journey. My husband and I had been trying to get pregnant for years. We did rounds of IUI – all unsuccessful. Then went down oe ivf route. The only pregnancy was an early loss. A very painful and bitter experience. We decided to go to a specialist and we set a further ''game'' plan. I had to wait for my cycle before we could start everything. But guess what?- My period just wouldn’t come!! I didn’t even think to test because I figured there was no chance. I was feeling so defeated. Was really trying to stay positive but it was so hard. The mc felt like possible bad luck - My previous dr so coldly put it. It was what I thought about day and night.

My body was failing me. As a woman I felt that I’d failed at the one thing my body was able to do. And did let my husband down as well. This was such a difficult thing to wrap my mind around!! This rant was my irrational, emotional brain speaking though. I needed to keep that in check and just stay positive because through all of this. I had a lot to be thankful for. I had/have a supportive and loving husband and just the mere fact that I was able to conceive at all was something to be thankful for. I was so hoping that our next stage, with our new dr/clinic, would be a success. And we did it! Though we had to use donor eggs, but we did it!

You know what, I'm currently reading more and more success stories of couples who used mitochondria replacement therapy with ivf. Therefore, it's an opportunity for a woman to give birth to a long-awaited baby. Moreover, this baby will have a genetic connection with her and her husband/partner! Mitochondria are often called “cellular power plants”. It's so because of their ability to convert nutrient molecules into energy. Mitochondria provide eggs with the necessary energy for normal functioning. A woman facing the constant failure, needs to restore the mitochondria of oocytes first of all. Taking into consideration the number of eggs decreases with age. Fertility specialists find an egg donor with high functional mitochondrial activity. These healthy mitochondria are taken from the donor's egg cell, integrated with the patient’s cells, then fertilized with the sperm of the husband/partner. A healthy embryo is then transferred to the uterus. All this sounds really inspiring.

Could you update, please? How are the things going?