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Husband in induced coma for one week

Hi Everyone. I am Yneng, a Filipina living here in Germany. I am married with a German and we have two daughters (2 years old and 7 month old the youngest)

My husband has undergone surgery recently, a week ago to be exact. He was diagnosed with a malignant tumor under his tongue which requires a surgery and removal of some affected lymph nodes. The thing is, its been a week now and he is still in artificial coma. Im already so worried. Being in the foreign country alone and unfortunately, I am not yet speaking their language :( and then I have two babies with me, these times are really tough for me.

Maybe someone in this community has an idea on how long he will be in this condition? I am really so worried about him. Its so hard to speak to the nurses and doctors as they dont speak english that well also. I just rely on the informations and updates that my in laws are telling me.

Best regards,

yneng

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I cannot imagine how isolated you must feel. I have attached two links that I hope will answer some of your questions. Try and rest too & look after your children, your husband is in the safest hands possible.

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Thank you so much. On the brighter side, I am fortunate to have my brother in laws who are all also supportive. I will check these links youve just provided.

Best regards

Yneng

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Try to think positive and look after yourself and babies. My 64 years old dad woke up from his inducted coma after nearly 5 weeks so give your husband some time.

All the best

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Thank you... I really appreciate this. My husband is 46 years old. Yeah I am really praying hard he will be awake in due time. I am more than willing to wait till this time comes. Its just sometimes during the night, I just found myself in tears with my babies hoping the next days, things will be back to normal. But you are right, I need to take care of myself. My youngest is fully breastfed and I dont want that she will get all these negative energies from me.

Best regards

Yneng

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Hi YNENG I'm so sorry this has happened and hope you are finding the strength to look after your two little ones. Are there no nurses who can translate for you? I was looked after by a Filipino ICU nurse and on the ward where I was moved to..just a thought. The doctors will be doing everything they can. Keep us updated as we will be thinking of you. Best wishes. Xx

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Unfortunately, there is no Filipino doctor in the said hospital. And just few hours ago, I was informed that he has to undergo another surgery!!!! Another one and he havent recovered yet with the first :( It really breaks my heart. The details for the next operation I will get the next day. My brother in law who is a doctor also will have a meeting with my husband's

Even how much I am positive that he can make it, its so painful for me that he had to undergo through these things.

Time and prayers are still the ultimate healers.

Thank you so much.

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Sorry sent wrong link

icusteps.org/guide

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Its alright. I browsed the site as well trying to gather more information while Im praying for my husband to get better. And today, I was given a chance to visit him. He's awake and sitting. I cant help myself but cry upon seeing him. Its a mixed emotion. I am so happy that he is already awake from induced coma but of course, the surgery areas are still so swollen. His lower face (jaw lines), mouth and neck. But he is responding well with those things that I was telling him at least nodding his head and trying to give me smile. He even tried to curled up his eyebrows when he saw me crying.

Im praying for his continuous recovery. I am so very thankful that I found this site esp during those days that it seems I will already have a breakdown thinking of what will happen next.

Best regards,

Yneng

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Glad to hear he is on the mend

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Thank you. Tomorrow I will try to visit him again and I hope the swelling by then subsides gradually.

Regards

YNENG

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Hi Yneng,

I'm really sorry to read what you are going through. I wanted tu ask you, since I also live in Germany and I'm also not from here, I know how it feels! I'm Mexican and I live in Leipzig. Where do you live? If you need someone to talk to or if you have a question you can call me any time or write me a message. Im going through a terrible situation myself too but with my dad. He's still in the hospital, but now he's getting better. Really slowly.. he has been there for two months and I had to come back to Germany when he was still in coma. So I know how hard it is to be on your own being so far away from home and your family. I also speak German very well, so if you need help with something, please let me know and I give you my email or phone number.

My best wishes to you!!

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Hi Titiday

Thank you so much. I am in Sachsen Anhalt area also, Oranienbaum Worlitz to be exact. I do hope your father is better now. My husband right now is perfectly recovering (Praise to God). But he has to stay more at the hospital as the area of his surgery are too vascular and really prone to bleeding. It is really a tough time for me here right now but at this moment I feel a bit better. Of course handling two babies and all at the same time is really hard for me but at least emotionally I feel better now.

Best regards,

Yneng

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