My dad is in ICU on ventilator, medically induced comma. Day 11. pneumonia, sepsis, ARDS and fever. I'm trying to stay positive, but I'm finding my mother rather defeatist and so I've come here to find some more positive attitudes to help me get through this. He is 76 but was really healthy before the chest infection.
Elderly Pneumonia Sepsis ARDS ventilator coma ICU - ICUsteps
I am so sorry that you are going through this awful experience with your dad. It must be very worrying.
My suggestion is to make a specific appointment to talk to the doctors caring for him. They are best placed to be able to judge his current condition, and how things might go, as each patient has an individual clinical profile. The fact he was healthy before ICU admission is a positive. Your mums approach may be her way of protecting herself from the worst she can imagine.
Wishing you and your family all the best.