I feel like a piece of crap

[healthiskey]

I feel like a lazy piece of crap who can't do anything for anyone. An example is my family has a dog and it doesn't get walked enough as it should even though i'm in the house most of the time and i'm not working so i should be walking it but i don't do anything for it. I go into her and pet her most days and clean up her poo sometimes but that's it. It's not that i don't want to it's that i don't have the energy to. I feel so tired and like i just wanna lay in bed on my laptop all day and even though i know it's because of my health i still feel like i should be doing more.

[Just1-one1-more]

Have you spoken to your GP about how you are feeling ?

[Activity2004 Administrator]

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[Hidden]

Aw I’m so sorry you’re feeling so low right now x if you haven’t already it might be time to speak to a professional xx I understand the feeling of low energy and motivation though... its the worst 😔

[healthiskey in reply to Hidden]

I need to get back to eating healthy balanced diet and exercising because i feel really bad now. I drank 3 days in a row too which made things a lot worse so it's my own fault.

[Hidden in reply to healthiskey]

Im the same

I don’t drink but if I have low moments I’ll eat bad and at stupid times and hardly drink water or anything and just stay lazy for days then my depression just gets worse and worse!

[healthiskey in reply to Hidden]

Yeah sounds relatable. It's easy to get stuck in a rut especially when you don't have the energy to do anything about it.

[Activity2004 Administrator in reply to healthiskey]

Was there a celebration?

[healthiskey in reply to Activity2004]

No there wasn't.

[Lili-Ana]

This is how i always feel , too. But i suffer from low blood pressure most of the time, and this can be a reason why one is always tired.

[Activity2004 Administrator in reply to Lili-Ana]

What did the doctor say about the low blood pressure?

[Lili-Ana in reply to Activity2004]

Pomegranate juice and spicy food if there are no stomach problems, fitness...

[Hidden]

I recognise these feelings well and really suggest you see your GP. But in the meantime just try to do one thing each day that challenges you. For example, take the dog out for a very short walk, do some housework ( just a little) or anything that makes you move a little. Inactivity breeds inactivity and you need to gently break the cycle. It can also lead to being depressed so doing something extra, no matter how small will help raise your activity levels.

Good luck! Let us know how you get on!😃

[healthiskey in reply to Hidden]

I'm gonna start exercising again regularly. I've been hit with a cold now though so that will have to wait. Also i was at my GP i have had tests done just waiting for results.

[Activity2004 Administrator in reply to healthiskey]

Feel better soon, healthiskey . A lot of people I know also have a bad cold and cough out here.

[podsart]

In addition to contacting Your dr and trying to force yourself to do even small steps, depression could additionally be a culprit. Get an evaluation and perhaps treatment for any clinical depression could help.

[NinjaW78]

I can only speak from my experience but are you on any medication???????? if so go to your GP and have it reviewed, when my wife had her ovaries and tubes removed due to a cancer scare ten years ago she was put on various medication and was taking more tablets a day than in a tube of Smarties, after she had been on them for a few months my kids and myself noticed a change in her, she became easily upset,she felt as if she could do nothing right, was tired nearly all day, and basically our relationship was taking a nose dive, even though we mentioned this to her she couldn't see it herself apart from the 'do nothing right', eventually we persuaded her to go to the GP, and once they had gone through all of her medication they found that a combination of two of the tablets she was taking could produce this reaction/change in her. They changed the medication and although she will be on this for life, now it is all compatible and she has more energy, is more driven and basically back to normal.

Failing which if you are not on any medication I would still advise going to the GP for a chat, at least sharing you feelings with them will relieve a little of the dilema you appear to be in, and they may well be able to assist.

Good luck and hope you recover soon,

[healthiskey in reply to NinjaW78]

No i'm not on any medication and i've been feeling like this for years. I went to my GP and she done some tests. I'll have the results on tuesday hopefully.

[NinjaW78 in reply to healthiskey]

I'm pleased for you that you went to see the GP, at least that is a step in the right direction for answers or at least some professional help to recover from what I can only imagine is a very sad and lonely place to be based on you description of how you feel. I know it's a bit off topic but have you told friends and family of how you feel (and I mean really feel), the reason I say this is that years ago my first wife up and left for a life in the sun with her lover, leaving me and our two kids, (at the time they were 2 1/2 and 8 months old when she walked out) as you can imagine I was devastated, and never felt so helpless or alone in my life. For the next few years all I did was work and look after my Kids didn't go out socialising etc etc, eventually I got to the stage where you appear to be at the moment, I felt that I was just surviving and worthless. Even though friends and family would ask if I was OK I would say "yes I'm fine" and just get on with my life, but the reality was 'I wasn't fine' I was a 'penny less single parent' trying to hold down my Royal Air force career. Eventually one evening whilst talking to my Dad on the phone I broke down in tears I felt so alone, all of my emotions, frustration, anger spilled out to him, He put the phone down on me!! I thought I had overstepped the mark with him however although he lived at the time 120 miles away, the next thing was in the middle of the night there was a knock at the door and there he was stood there. We had the big man hug and talked my issues through face to face! for the next few days he helped me sort out my immediate emotional issues,and told me that I have some great friends around me, who (if they knew) would be there for me, when I told him that my friends had pretty much deserted me since I became a single parent, he said "don't be so stupid have you ever considered that maybe YOU have pushed them away by trying to be a martyr and dealing with everything alone", That started me thinking and I realised there was no shame in discussing my woes ,worries, anxiety with my friends and other members of my family, because when I eventually opened up to them my Dad was right!!!! they hadn't deserted me they had been there all along only I was blinded by my emotions and self reliance to see it, once I spoke up I became more involved in their lives, my social life improved, and most of all the I started to feel "life was actually worth living" and even though it was tough at first friends and family helped us through,now , so it can be done. Good luck and I hope your results provide some positive information for a speedy recovery to feeling good.

[healthiskey in reply to NinjaW78]

Wow that sounds terrible. I'm very sorry you had to go through that. You seem like a really genuine person who definitely didn't deserve that sort of situation. I'm glad you spoke to someone and your dad came through for you. It does help having other people around you who know what you're going through. It feels like a slight weight lifted off your shoulders. I have lost friends due to my problems. I have lost my whole social circle since primary school and high school. I'm only 21 now and i'm starting to make a new social circle. I lost them because i dropped out of school and became a hermit and never socialized or contacted them. I was in such a bad place and had severe social anxiety too. The tests i got done was for thyroid function and vitamins and celiac. I hope to get a positive for one of them so i can treat myself and hopefully start to feel better. Thanks for sharing your story.

[Peanut31 in reply to healthiskey]

Hi

I see you have had a thyroid blood test and waiting for the results.

Thyroid issues can cause loads of symptoms, and maybe why you feel so low.

I noticed around 18 months ago I was starting to feel really depressed, tired and no zest for life, I went to see a counsellor thinking it would help.

It did help but, I had lots of unexpected symptoms, feeling cold all the time etc.

I was diagnosed with Hashimoto’s (autoimmune disease) and then with an underactive Thyroid.

I’m now on Levothyroxine, (thyroid medication) I’m starting to feel better as my dosage is increased.

It’s important that you obtain a copy of your blood results, don’t accept from the GP that they are in range, what the NHS say are in range, (thyroid wise) can still make you feel ill.

Hopefully you had the blood test first thing in the morning, why?, this give the best TSH reading for thyroid.

Testing for thyroid is TSH, T3 &T4, some Doctors only test TSH which is no good.

Vitamin levels play an important part too, vitamin D, iron, Ferritin & B12.

Once you have your results post them on the thyroid section and others will advise.

It could be a thyroid issue.

Best wishes

Peanut31

[healthiskey in reply to Peanut31]

I'm hoping to get the answer to my health problems before i go on holidays on the 16th july because otherwise i could end up crashing over there and the whole holiday i'd spend sitting on my room because even when i do things when my health is down i can't enjoy them and actually feel better to just do nothing rather than go do things that are generally fun or entertaining. I don't know if i'll get the answer before then but i'm hoping. The test is for all those that you listed out and more so it should cover a lot. I'm really scared that it's going to come back as normal. I'm convince i have an autoimmune disease as everything points to it.My dads side of the family have autoimmune problems and thyroid issues too.

[Activity2004 Administrator in reply to healthiskey]

It's always scary when we have tests for certain issues and don't know the answers right away. I always feel nervous at the doctor's office a week after getting my A1c test done because sometimes, it never agrees with how I've changed parts of my diet/blood sugar control. Sometimes, the test comes back much higher than I expect and sometimes, it goes down. It's always a toss up.

[NinjaW78 in reply to healthiskey]

I'm sorry for the long winded explanation, but to get the point across I needed to explain so that my final statement would make sense,which was "acquaintances" come and go but true friends never desert you, and that's where you have to look at yourself and question "Is it me that has pushed my friends/family away????" and that's what I asked myself (eventually), and it was true I had!! so I apologised to them all and life became easier again.

At '21' you have the whole world to live for and explore, and hopefully now you have visited the GP that first major step has been taken; one way or the other you will be on the road to recovery, especially with a new social circle (or lost friendships rekindled) for emotional support you can then live life to the full, and enjoy it!!

GOOD LUCK with your results, let's hope they can pin point an easily remedied solution.

[healthiskey in reply to NinjaW78]

I could get a call today or tomorrow about my test results. I'm nervous that it will come back normal

[benwl in reply to healthiskey]

Either way it should be useful information for you.

I have to say an auto immune condition isnt something to be wished for, so on your behalf I'm hoping you don't have one

Remember that it's for the doctors to diagnose any condition and either way, the next steps will be to see a consultant who will probably do more tests.

[healthiskey in reply to benwl]

Having all these symptoms and being chronically ill for around 7 years and not having any specific problem you can treat is worse though so i'd welcome an auotimmune disease if it meant it was something i could treat.

[NinjaW78 in reply to healthiskey]

I agree with benwl, the reality is no-one wants to be ill and hopefully your not. But these tests are best and need to be eliminated. Which ever way it goes; we as a group of individuals can only call up on similar personal experiences and offer distant moral support, at least you having a direct professional involved, you will be guided by a qualified trained practitioner who is well linked to the other professions; 'where' if required they can assist and help with other forms of advice and eventual recovery from the way you feel

which ever way the results go at least it will provide you with a base line datum to work from. Again good luck with the results. keep you chin up you've done the right thing.

[healthiskey in reply to NinjaW78]

Yeah i don't want to be ill but the reality is i am ill whether these tests come back showing that or not. I've been sick for 7 years but i never went to the doctors as much as i should have because of social anxiety and thinking it was all in my head and just depression. But i have a range of physical symptoms that any normal 21 year old should definitely not have. So i am sick regardless. It may not be auto immune but it's something. I was talking to the doctors office just now, the results are back but the doctor has to look at them first before calling me.

[NinjaW78 in reply to healthiskey]

7 years is a long time and I feel for you, but hey!!!! soon you'll know one way or the other, and then hopefully you can move on with the support it sounds like you so desperately need, trust me though even 'if or if not' the test reveal anything "a trouble shared is a trouble halved" if there is someone around you a close friend or relative that you could arrange to meet up with away from your home (like a municipal garden, park or country walk) just have a chat and let them know how you feel and have been for this prolonged period of time, it didn't happen over night for me, but trust me people who I thought wouldn't really give a damn surprised me with their compassion and support and it did feel good, but hey that was too many years ago for me to mention. fingers crossed for your results.

[healthiskey in reply to NinjaW78]

I'm feeling nervous for the results they could call within the next hour

[NinjaW78 in reply to healthiskey]

Well don't be nervous think of it as a positive step forward. good luck

[Amaya88]

Hi, how awful for you to feel this way. You've taken a good first step and spoken to your doctor. Sometimes we need a culprit for the way we feel so we can fight it. I'm sure you've been told this before but I just wanted to give some encouragement. Take, small, steps. Everyday can seem like a battle just to function, and you just want to stay in your comfort zone and not face anything in the world, but you have shown something truly lazy people wouldn't, you want to change, but you have to understand, that won't happen overnight, it could take years before you feel better about your worth in life, but you will get there! I hope your results are what you are wanting, but for now, take some time to see what you could do now. If you feel you are too lazy and tired, have a good think and see if that's your body talking, or your mind. If it's your body, then take that rest and feel no guilt! If it's your head, tell it to be quiet for just 5 minutes and do something small, like some chores. That could be washing a dish, wiping a counter, emptying a bin, throwing away old food, and if you feel a bit better, do some more. As for the dog, it would be great if you could do more for her, but since you feel so bad about your ability to care for her just do anything minimal for her or stay away. I hope things start to look up and good luck with everything.

[healthiskey in reply to Amaya88]

Thanks, i was just talking to the receptionist at my doctors and she said the results are back but the doctor has to look at them first and then call me back.

[NinjaW78]

Hope all went well with the results.

[healthiskey in reply to NinjaW78]

They came back normal

[NinjaW78 in reply to healthiskey]

Did they give you any pointers as to what the next step would be?, to help raise your self esteem?

[healthiskey in reply to NinjaW78]

She said she's referring me to a specialist in autoimmune disease

[NinjaW78 in reply to healthiskey]

Well at least that still sounds like a positive move forward, I had a look around and found this web site.

supportline.org.uk/problems...

you mentioned a few things regarding your self diagnosed anxiety,depression etc under this web site there are loads of headings which cover what you described and also below the symptoms there is "what can I do to help myself" It might be worth a look, just to see if it can give you a little moral support whilst on this journey.

which ever get well soon and enjoy your holiday,good luck

[healthiskey in reply to NinjaW78]

My anxiety isn't self diagnosed. I went to a a couple different psychologists for about 5 years. I was even in a rehab for a month when i was a teenager for depression and anxiety.

[NinjaW78 in reply to healthiskey]

I'm really sorry, I have misunderstood the content of your conversations as you only stated that you never went to the doctors as much as you should have because of social anxiety and thinking it was all in your head and just depression, in that case I'm sure that everything I have already mentioned has just raked over old ground that you have heard before, and that web site is nothing new to you.

Once again I apologise and sorry if I have wasted your time, honestly all of my efforts were well intended.

Good Luck anyway.

[healthiskey in reply to NinjaW78]

You haven't wasted my time at all don't worry. It's a breath of fresh air to read comments from genuine people like you so i thank you for that. I never went to the actual doctors much but i was going to psychologists and stuff like that and was prescribed anti depressants. I never went for check ups in the doctors like most people.