Seeking restoration

[WolfLady28]

A couple of years ago, my partner and I were in a motorcycle accident. He took the brunt of the accident (shin and knee cap injury). I had some spots of road rash on my hand and eyebrow. It could have been worse for both of us if traffic on the right had not stopped. I know we had something watching out for us. Neverless, my partner's recovery was long and painful.

We are both in recovery for many years before the accident. He has had a few relapses over 30 years. I have 30+ years continuous. To watch how he managed his pain with pain killers and alcohol (sneaking the alcohol), well, that was just as traumatic.

I did not seek EAP for help. I didn't feel I had the time to that between work and caretaking, and maybe a meeting once in a while - where would I fit EAP in? I was barely able to get good sleep.

So, it's been almost two years. He is doing so well. He's back to work and normal activities such as exercising, weightlifting, and riding the bike again. However, I am not that far. I am jumpy. I don't sleep well. I don't remember things the way I once did. So he has to remind me. Sometimes, I just don't care about much. Other times, I good. But most days I feel like "ok, whatever". My body feels shaky all the time.

I want to get back to where I was before the accident: I was happy all the time and carefree.

[Beingindependent Volunteer]

You’ve been through a lot of trauma. Good your partner is back to normal activities

but yes sometimes it takes longer and that would be difficult.

I hope you can find what heals you, if calling someone to go out with you may help.

Because it can be difficult. I hope that you can begin to take baby steps and feel free to process the memories so that you can heal from them so you can live your life.

Take care

[Nathalie99 Partner]

I am so very sorry, WolfLady28, for how much you and your husband went through.

I think because of your care your husband was able to recover and is doing better.

I hope you can be supported enough through these difficult times and think how much strength and putting someone else first you showed.

It has been very intensive for you for all those years when you had to do so much. When the safety returns, it's natural reaction to kind of "fall apart" because you need rest after all those years.

You are probably processing things subconsciously because you didn't have time earlier. That's why the symptoms...

It's really difficult...

Sending you support and hope.

[Hidden]

I've been in 3 mvas n i can tell u..u never get back the old u.it's super hard..but all I can say is..don't lose "u" unfortunately I've been stuck with partial paralysis n other permanent injuries from all my mvas.Rise up,n find what makes u fabulous NOW.Also..talk with others who have been through what u have..n then help others not so fortunate.I could have given up..but I'm too tough to let all my mvas take me down.Sending a hug..n strength ur way.

[sunandbutterfly]

So sorry to hear of all that you and your husband have been going through. I lost my brother in law to a motorcycle accident.

My mom, like you, had too much going on to take care of herself after his passing. It was a year before she decided to listen to the encouragement to get counseling.

I would encourage you to talk to your husband (or some of your people who can support you) and tell him how you are feeling. Please take the time to take care of yourself in this too. Hope some of these resources will be helpful for you.

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