Family

[Dantheman12]

I have family, mother and sisters in London I've not lived with them for 21yrs and I miss them all dearly I have an ABI and am living with weak right side of body, paralysed and in care and rehabs in Kidderminster I get to go home for just 4 days every 6 to 8 months not good enough in my eyes I just feeling lonely left out and unloved

[Teazymaid]

hi Dan this does sound horrible have you spoken to your support network to see if there is anything that can be changed to help you live with more input in you day to day living .. Sue 🤔

[Dantheman12 in reply to Teazymaid]

I don't really have many people around me that I'd feel comfortable talking too about the issues I'm having

[Teazymaid in reply to Dantheman12]

Sometimes that’s difficult to find the right person .. how about a member of staff or a councillor .. I’m unsure what sort of home you are in or if you have a social worker ..sometimes talking though your feelings very much help to elevate the situation you are in … so pleased you are talking on here 😊 we are all very different but also understand the difficult pathway we find ourselves on .Sue 😊

[cat3]

How sad for you Daniel. Why do you think your family are neglecting you ?

You say in your bio - "they know there is a good person in me sometimes and sometimes not such a gooden" (does that mean an anger issue since the brain injury, or something dating back further ?) Just trying to understand the issue.

Do mum or sisters ever visit you in Kidderminster Dan ?

And are you able to get out & about ...maybe with a mobility aid ?

Questions, questions . . . . (but no judgements here) 🙄

Cat.. 🙂

[Dantheman12 in reply to cat3]

Yes I can get out unaided just a weak side of body and I've been here for 6 years in a care home family have visited once, and yes anger issues also feeling of living another life that I don't want to live anymore but hard to change

[cat3]

Have you ever undergone therapy for anger management Dan ? I've heard many accounts over the years of how CBT has rescued people's relationships.

A neuropsychologist can help with recognizing triggers and adopting alternatives to aggressive reactions.

Talking therapy mightn't appeal if, like me, you're naturally sceptical, but it did work for me after betting the therapist it definitely wouldn't !

If you can openly acknowledge your anger to family (as you've done here) and demonstrate willingness to address it, maybe it'll test out whether or not they're ready to behave like 'loved ones'.

But CBT can be personally empowering and help you let go of the past ...to accept the present day version of yourself with confidence.

Take care.. Cat....🙂