At risk of manipulation

Any survivors feel they are at risk of manipulation? By the media other people etc. I have been since 2014. Acquired TBI. Craniotomy . Access left temporal lobe. Bacterial meningitis of my brain.

[Jonty77]

I do worry about this a bit although it is getting better. My main thing is that I am very susceptible to cute things and to anyone in need. I like to buy people things. My daughters picked up on this early and got some new clothes and a kitten. They’ve realised now not to take advantage. Now the cat has got my number too though and begs for food in the most adorable way. We have a rule now about how often I’m allowed to feed him.

One of the other things is that I don’t always gauge social situations correctly so I’m often wondering if I’m reading people’s behaviour properly. That does often leave me feeling pretty insecure and vulnerable at times.

As with most things I tend to double check with people I trust if I’m not sure about something. I like to think I’m still astute but I’m probably not always.

[Hidden in reply to Jonty77]

I had this issue prior to my craniotomy.Not taught to say no set boundaries etc. Also known as codependency. I had therapy after recovered plus domestic violence help. If people see this in me I can be taken advantage of. I am still learning but my ability to assess people and situations is always getting better. I was taught in therapy if you get involved in the wrong situation or with a person get out.Thank you for your reply.

[Nafnaf87]

Good morning Freedom

It is not a question of at risk and the worry is really not the media, more likely people you know well backed up by the state.

Not going to bore everybody with the whole story again but in 2019 I lost my job and directorship in our family business as my brother manipulated my mother. I then lost the home I had shared with my mother and recently deceased father as the manipulation continued (money and rent free accommodation for him and his family forever plus sole inheritance). I was taken to court by my mother for trespass which happened over the phone during lockdown!

So yes, worry about manipulation - make sure you are open minded as to where that might come from.

Best wishes

Michael

[skydivesurvivor]

Wry much so! Acquired TBI in 2000, never expected the abuse to come from my sister though!!!

[Hidden in reply to skydivesurvivor]

I am very sorry for your experience. My brother was involved in mine. He was is the golden child so now he is in charge. My dad the estate etc. I live 1900 miles away now.

[Hidden]

Nafnaf87 how did this turn out for you? Are you safe? Housed? Etc. I am so sorry. I went through similar issues..I am appalled at the lack of understanding for people with TBI. Yes I am aware of other areas sources this can come from.

[skydivesurvivor in reply to Hidden]

Look at it as a learning curve!!! Make u stronger, am now looking to do pottery with headway the brain injury charity in Wimbledon got to find something to do now am no longer looking after mum MY carer!! Keep safe n smile! Oh & give u a laugh, called council to come change a light bulb for me as am visually impaired. Spent 11/2 hours going back n forth, hung up on twice, apparently they had no knowledge of my diss ability on record?! Had them out the week before!!- learn to smile to spite the TBI?!! Take care

[Hidden]

Thank you skydive. You are right and I agree. I am free now