Finally at rehab.....

[treetate]

So Kevin was finally moved to a brain rehabilitation centre yesterday and it should have been a really exciting day as it means progress has been made!! Way then am I an emotional wreck and cant stop crying - maybe the build up and stress of the situation or maybe having to leave him there feeling anxious and scared about being in a new place. He was very confused and kept saying he wants to die and to get him out of there. I think I have stopped being in denial about the situation and realised that this is all real and that he has major issues and that I may have lost him forever.

Feeling heartbroken

[Shon48]

I think you are going through all the emotions you have tried to block while waiting for his place in rehab. Far too much stress and I hope and pray this will be a turning point for you both . 🤗🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿

[sca2013]

Yes, that whole situation has got to be very heartbreaking for you. I am sorry this happened in your lives. I wish you peace and comfort in dealing with all of this.

[Lauren_1006]

Sending love. I think it’s normal to have days where it all just comes rushing at you. He’s in the best place now to make progress which is such a relief! That also sometimes brings on so many emotions x

[steve55]

he was confused because it was strange surroundings and people he didnt know. im talking from a person with a brain injury now, we are used to our routine, part of that routine is our surroundings and the people we know, if these change then we can get upset and it can take us a long time before we get used to our new surroundings and the new staff.

[cat3]

You probably have lost the old version of your man m'dear and it might take a little while to acknowledge and accept the new version. We've all undergone those changes in the months/years since our brain injuries, and it's a painfully slow process, but we're still here and, for the most part, grateful for a second chance.

It's a strange and often frustrating transition from 'what was' to 'what is now' but we're stronger than we know, and life after brain injury is OK...........different for sure, but OK. My family and I actually joke about my being visited by 'The Body Snatchers' .................. and it's that humour which has seen us through this whole, slightly weird, business.

I hope you'll manage to dust yourself down and start afresh tomorrow with settling your husband into his new surroundings. It's been heart-breaking for you seeing him upset and confused, but once he's familiar with the new routine and started therapy I hope you'll both feel reassured and less upset.

Sending all best wishes and a heap of hugs........... Love Cat x

[All123 in reply to cat3]

Couldn’t of said it better

[treetate in reply to cat3]

Thank you Cat, that makes a lot of sense. I have definitely been in denial and and now realise that things will be different. He’s very angry with me at the moment which is because I guess he feels abandoned and scared and I can completely understand that. Hopefully this will calm down once he accepts that he is the best place for him and that I just want him to have the best chance of a good recovery xx