Hospital

[1949liz]

I was rushed into hospital blue lights on Thursday evening all my stats were dangerously low. I am so tired in fact extremely tired and low. I want to go away and hide and disappear. Had letter from his company telling me I have no right to live in the home so I would be homeless. You would think after everything he has done to me he would let me be at peace. Sorry for the moan Liz 🌹🙏

[Pairofboots]

Hi Liz, this is the place to moan. The first thing is to get yourself well. The second, is to get legal representation to halt any proceedings at least until you are up to dealing with them, Headway or Citizens Advice maybe able to offer support. I hope that you have got a friend or relative that can help, if not then the Patient Advice and Liaison may be able to help, it probably isn't strictly their remit, but you need someone that can communicate with the outside world for you. Best wishes 🍀

[1949liz in reply to Pairofboots]

Thank You for replying to me I have eventually got a solicitor but it taking so long in getting information from the solicitor who dumped me. I am extremely down at the moment hope it does not last. Many thanks for caring Liz 🌹

[Pairofboots in reply to 1949liz]

Keep in touch, better times will come xx

[Painting-girl]

Sounds truly awful Liz.

Could you ring your solicitor in the morning and say this is very urgent please. This is really very important.

As PairofBoots says, perhaps a solicitor can get a court order of some sort to put a hold on this. Please Don't ignore it, you don't want to find bailiffs turning up because you haven't taken any legal action. It does sound like he's bullying you.

Is this the marital home that was owned by his company? Is he the only director - do you or your husband pay the company rent?

If he owns the company, at least 50% of it could well be awarded to you in a divorce settlement - possibly more, because the principle is that both people need to be able to support themselves. Until the financial settlement and decree absolute he should be maintaining the status quo and paying for the same bills he always has.

Why did you say your solicitor sacked you - what happened?

Read this and see if it helps - it looks like you might possibly be able to register home rights with the Land Registry - but your best bet is talking to your lawyer tomorrow morning first thing

rightsofwomen.org.uk/get-in...?

[Kentcarer]

Dear Liz, I’m so sorry for what’s happening to you. All the advice you have had on here is good. Getting someone good to help you is key. I’m thinking of you and one day this will all come good. You are entitled to your financial share. Take care and sending big hugs x

[1949liz in reply to Kentcarer]

Dear Kentcarer,Thank you for your kind reply I have had a message from headway and I will telephone them today Many Many Thanks Liz x

[Kentcarer]

You will get through this. Get well, get angry, get your life back and what is legally yours. You will get there. Lots of love ❤️

[1949liz in reply to Kentcarer]

Thanks it’s rather overwhelming this time and I am so down. I need to pick myself up and shake myself thanks for caring Love Liz x🌹🙏

[cat3]

I'm so sorry you're at such a low ebb Liz. It's horrible trying to deal with fears for the future alongside an acrimonious divorce. Stress can bring us so low.

Just want to say I hope Headway can help guide you through this minefield and that your solicitor will keep you safe.

If you haven't already, maybe ask your GP for temporary meds to help you cope. Sending love & hugs... Cat x

[Leaf100]

I am so sorry to hear all this Liz. And releieved you have reached out for help as you mention lower down.

Acrimonious divorce is really tough, as far as possible you have to look at it in a business like/accountacy way, which means knowing your rights and having legal representation who also understand your injury - both so they understand how to work with you and because it impacts any settlement since you are unable to do some things for yourself and have higher support needs.

Be strong.

You matter.

You are deserving.

Been through a divorce where someone really turned on me and got downright malicious, while pretending to all and sundry he was being a kind and decent man about it all - while doing exactly the opposite.

These things are emotionally difficult to take.

And I can also say, given I have a lot of years of distance now, he is not worth letting him get to you. He is just a spoit brat throwing a tantrum, like a two year old not wanting to give toys to the child who actually owns them.

When you start thinking about him and the why did he, how could he, please try to keep this in mind. You can understand with 2 year olds they are in a mood or a phase and you need to excercise parental authority - in this case excercising authority is by legal means.

I do not live in the UK so have no legal advise to offer, except I would be very surprised if it is legal to evict you wiithout some long drawn out process especially becaise your health needs need to be met - that is, if he is really allowed to evict you at all. I wouldn't assume that. Under the curcumstanxes I would assume everything he says is a self serving lie.

Look into having the locks changed on your home if you can afford to, change the alarm codes if any.

You can also tell your mind to stop if it thinks about him (as opposed to what you need to do to get through this) and give it something else to think about - a flower, a puppy. There is a guy on youtube from Poland who washes carpets, it is amazingly relaxing. It helps me fall asleep. (And it is way more interesting than whatever his name was .)

I made a new life for myself that is a thousand times better without him, even with a bi.

There is light at the end of the tunnel.

You come first. Tell yourself you are going to be strong for the sake of your health and not let him win by making it worse by stressing you out.

Keeping phoning as you need. Keep a log of who you talk to and what they said.

Sending a hug to you , hang in there

Leaf x

[1949liz in reply to Leaf100]

You are so kind and thoughtful your words are so wise and knowledgeable thank you so much. I will read and read your letter as it’s all so true and helpful. Many Many Thanks Liz 🌹🌹🙏💯

[Leaf100 in reply to 1949liz]

I am glad it helps, Liz. Best wishes Leaf x

[Painting-girl]

Couldn't agree more with what Leaf has said Liz. Take care, ring your solicitor before the weekend, and remember we are here for you to talk to as well.

[catrabb1t]

I just wanted to say that all sounds very frightening for you. I hope you are okay xx

[1949liz]

Thanks so much it help knowing I can freely speak to people who understand Liz 🌹🙏