Fed up with hubby

[teresa12]

Fed up lately with hubby behaviour towards myself and our boys. He constantly asking for alcohol he just winds you down from 6.30am to 7.30am before I go to work and then when I get home from work . We all go to work to get away from him god I sound horrible wife my poor hubby has no life since his stroke and now elliptic fits he lonely no one visit him he can't walk can't get out of bed can't dress himself what life he as is crap. But sometimes he so caring and great to be around. But I'm tired of his drinking I work 30 hours a week with kids of special needs my dad got cancer not looking good so I'm here in Bradford and travelling to Wales to see my dad

It been a year now is this it I'm so fed up we can't go on holiday I got sister in law that's keeps bragging she going away about 4 times a year

Any way sorry for moaning and ranting on 😑

[Silkwood20]

Hi Teresa,No you don't sound like a horrible wife, just an honest and exhausted one, who is doing an amazing job and wants to help her poor husband but doesn't know how to..Its a terrible situation for you all, try to hold onto the thought that he should recover more than this. Poor guy must be so depressed too, he probably wants the alcohol to escape. I have no answers, but I would have a chat with Headway.Do hope others have some ideas to help. Very Best wishes ❤

[provicky]

Hi Teresa, sorry for your situation. More power and grace to you to handle your kids and hubby too. It's a pretty tough journey for post recovery stroke. My younger brother has been on recovery from hypoxic brain injury and ischemic stroke since 2020. It's been a journey and still is. Part of recovery involves deppressive states, epileptic episodes, irritability and other dynamics. Some people get better some don't. A strong support system is critical part of recovery. Men are especially more affected. You are amazing. Keep it up. It's okay to rant and vent out as you are also affected by the situation.

[Pairofboots]

Hi Teresa, good place to let the steam out. You must talk to your GP. You are under immense pressure, and need support and respite, just tell them as it is, if there is a time to blurt things out it is now. Talk to Headway about possible support for you and your husband. Let us know how you get on 🍀