Is giving up an option...

[thrillseeker]

I am facing losing my family because I can’t do the psychological assessment that’s over 400 or so questions but I am judged on my past and so on so is giving up an option here I mean I am going to lose my family because I am been judged on my past and nothing more is worse because I need help and struggling to get it

I know if the system was fair Which it isn’t I have brain damage and I brought my boys up on my own for a number of years then I met an amazing woman and I am losing them because my step daughter had reported something that wasn’t happening and now we face losing them all but clearly I think this should be looked at probably and it isn’t and now the system is going to fail me again left with a brain injury and so on... the thing that really makes my blood boil is that a person that is known as a sex offender is aloud to go back to his own family but because I have brain damage I am been marked as a high risk factor because i shouted and so on this system is all wrong I don’t know why but this is what it’s like to have you’re own family life in someone else’s hands that doesn’t know anything about me or my family my kids are teenagers and when I shouted I made sure they knew it wasn’t aimed at them but yet I am deemed the mentally unstable one what a joke this really is because I have been asking for years for the help and nothing been offered the last time I saw the GP she said unfortunately this is all the NHS can offer count to ten and going for a walk I am sorry but you should be doing more to see what’s wrong with me why I have been feeling low while on sertraline at 150mg and amitriptyline to help me sleep at 30mg I don’t know why I am feeling so disconnected and nothing more that I am a waste of space and using up oxygen I know what I am feeling and mostly the stuff is put down to my brain injury but to be told I have BPD and another person from the mental health team says it doesn’t look like it’s BPD and I am left with that for a few years I find that I am here because of them saying this not helping me manage what ever illness I have or don’t have giving up seems the only option

[Marnie22]

Hi. Have you thought of getting an advocate to support you with your case? Advocates are trained to support you to communicate your views and to get listened to. Local authorities usually have free advocacy services. You can either search online or call your local authority or ask the Citizens Advice Bureau. I have had advocates several times and they gave been very worthwhile.

Best wishes. 😌🌸

[thrillseeker in reply to Marnie22]

To be honest I have seen someone form Communicourt and I don’t think they are much help either but thanks

[Pairofboots]

It sounds like you need neuro-psychiatric help as opposed to general MH services. As for the psychology assessment even if it is 400 questions, they should take time and break it down into manageable chunks.

The problem is if a minor makes a complaint, then the authorities air on the side of caution.

If you have legal representation ask them to request a neuro-psychiatric assessment instead of a general MH report.

Good luck.

[thrillseeker in reply to Pairofboots]

Hey thanks pairofboots

I am going to email my solicitor thanks buddy

[bexx87]

Im sorry to hear what your going through, I would say no giving up is not an option.

can you gp not try you on a different medication? Not even I could do a 400 question assessment so I would question the psychologist making you do this and get a 2nd option.

Cant you get a restraining order against your step daughter as she sounds like shes trying to stir the pot or can you talk to her mum who I imagine is your wife/girlfriend?

[thrillseeker in reply to bexx87]

The problem is I know it may take me some time to do that 400 questions but I would rather be given the opportunity to be able to do it rather than them just assuming from what they have in front of them like my past history my up bringing and been hit with a belt as they say I can’t remember been hit with a belt but either way it seems as though they are looking for ways to take my kids into care

My reading is slow so been told that I can’t do it is a joke in my eyes as clearly he was the one that said I needed help from out side the courts such as Communiccourt they help me understand things but I understand things it may take me a while but I still get there, plus my solicitor said he was fully trained in the brain injury part and I asked him and he said NO... so clearly I am been taken for a fool

[Pippy-longstocking]

Hi Thrillseeker,

I actually did a full psychology report for the courts and my result came out much better than the other party. My BI is due to having undiagnosed/untreated autoimmune condition so there was no 'event' but I explained I was suffering extreme 'brain fog' which is all I knew at the time and my MRI came about later. For the MMPI (questionaire) I suggest using a ruler to keep the answers to the right question (I got that bit wrong a few times and had to go back to get on track). When it was analysed the result was that there no evidence of any psych condition, but there was evidence of physical illness. From the discussion part of the assessment it was noted that I had difficulty with memory and numbers (recalling dates) and I had to correct some dates via email and that was noted quite factually. I hope that helps and if I can tell you anything specifically that you want, I would be happy to oblige.

[thrillseeker in reply to Pippy-longstocking]

All I will say is that it seems that everything is stacked up against me... i am not meant to know somethings such as my step daughter and who is 17 yrs old and has the mental age of a 8yr old and I am been treat like I am a criminal but clearly am not, I have been asking for help for years due to the brain injury that happened when I was 4yra old. Just because I say things with out thinking doesn’t make me a bad person I have the brain injury ID card and to be honest that doesn’t seem to work out either I mean I have cleaned up my act I stopped yelling when I nearly lost my family last year and no because of lies I am losing my family and the woman I love so much... I am sick to my stomach I am beginning to think I am meant to lose every time, I mean social services think I am violent because back in 2004 when I left my wife for cheating I am now been accused of pushing her down stairs but I left way way before she moved her lover in who pushed her down stairs and ended up in hospital for it... life’s cruel and so is all the professionals that are meant to help us

[Pippy-longstocking in reply to thrillseeker]

Stop beating yourself up and ask for a place on any parenting courses that are available. Be proactive and show how you intend to meet your childrens needs and manage your symptoms. Forget your ex - you are separated now and there's no mileage in going on about her - you need your focus to be firmly based on wishing to take responsibility for your children. If they ask you to go on a DV course snatch it and be very honest with them. Do the psych test - it works better if you don't think too deeply about your answers - if you try to fool the test it will show up because there are checks built into it.

[thrillseeker in reply to Pippy-longstocking]

I have done both parenting courses the triple p for younger kids and teen triple p they don’t care all they are bothered about is proving I am a danger when I am not even my own children have said I am not a danger but still the social are hell bent on me been a danger all because of what it said on my ID card I can be aggressive but all though I have had it changed to say I can get frustrated and irritable they don’t care all they see is aggressive me been aggressive and in the very very first report when police came out they are saying that I was shouting when i was telling my step daughter to put her phone on the table because she was laughing at her four year old brother getting elbowed by her brother I know it was an accident from her brother site but she shouldn’t have been laughing and I wouldn’t have slightly raised my voice and put your phone on the table and all this in front of the judge is making me look bad plus my partner can’t help me or the social said they will take all the kids in to care me and her mum was planning our own wedding and even going for custody of my other daughter now that won’t ever happen