Traumatic Brain injury survivor reaching out

[Vapor_Ghost]

Hey everyone, my name is Adil Abdurahaman. I'm a 22-year-old who had a traumatic brain injury 2 years ago. It was December 2017 when it happened, I was unconscious for about a month after the injury. After I woke up, after going through rehabilitation, I went back to the University. I focused on everything that was outside of myself. I ignored my loneliness, how no one really seemed to understand. I even ignored the invitations of my local TBI support group. I just called the Traumatic Brain Injury Service coordinator to try and get back into contact with the group. Now events, not having any friends and insecurities have been weighing on me and have made me realize that I need support. I think I need to be in an environment, a community that supports itself through its members. Also if anyone might have some advice on navigating social situations as a TBI patient it would be so appreciated. I seem to let worry overtake me when I speak to peers. I worry that I won't be able to convey and that I will inevitably do something wrong socially even though I don't usually.

[eileenleach]

Look on headway website they are amazing and will help u a great deal z

[Vapor_Ghost in reply to eileenleach]

Thanks eileenleach, I didnt know and I will!

[eileenleach in reply to Vapor_Ghost]

My son had an accident at 17 n had front lobal head injuries n he didn’t get rehabilition or nothing after being discharged 12 days later, he was put into an induced coma after brain surgery but he recovered pretty quick but the following years from then av been awful, for his family mainly because he does look n act ok but he’s got so many issues that he never had before including epilepsy but that’s not the main problem to me anyway, he had personality changes, memory loss, fatigue, no concentration, doesn’t think straight just does everything on impulse, jeklly n hide I’d say he’s like n I had to learn this person for myself, i then emailed headway n told them what he was like n they explained this was from his head injury and I should’ve been prepared for all this n he should’ve had brain training n I should sue nhs, but there reply was just the answers I needed as my son blames me for just about everything, he’s 27 he can be very angry but I just learnt to walk away into my bedroom n lock the door x

[Vapor_Ghost in reply to eileenleach]

That's such a hard road. I came out and took physical therapy but my mom tells me I have a hard head and I tried to leave speech therapy as quickly as possible. I didn't like that it showed me a reflection of the work to come I think. I hope and I pray you, your son and myself gain strength of the heart.

[eileenleach in reply to Vapor_Ghost]

Which side of your head was ur brain injury? I didn’t sue the nhs though, they saved his life I am grateful for that but as the years go on i do get mad about the help he should’ve got but was never offered. If I’d av known back then what I know now I’d av demanded rehabilitation straight from discharge whilst he was 17 n under my care, but I had no idea, I av learnt a hell of a lot from headway though n I’d recommend there website to anyone n if u email help line with any questions they will give u good advice

[Vapor_Ghost in reply to eileenleach]

violent shaking caused damage on the sides of my head and an impact got the back of my head, I have quite the scar back there. I'll try to tomorrow, I have some questions about some social strategies. Yes, I hate that it was overlooked somehow. You know at times it's hard to come to terms with the fact that my life turned this way, but gratitude was one of the only things that help me cope.

[Jukieh]

It must have been terrible for you x