This will be the first one since I was 18

[bexx87]

The only funeral I have ever been to was my nans (and my grandad but I was too young to understand what was going on) and I'm still upset about having to go it (I wish the cancer didn't get to him but he was a heavy chain smoker) but I want to say a final farewell to one of the very first colleagues I met when I started my apprenticeship, I feel too young to have people dying on me, what make me feel touched (now more than ever) was he said happy birthday to me on Facebook via his wife's account

[RogerCMerriman]

I did go to few in my 20’s either relatives or friends who made unwise choices/poor luck.

Haven’t been to one since my accident, at least not for my personal life. Done a few work ones.

I guess depends on how if you’ve been changed I’m a bit more remote now takes me longer to process stuff.

[Shon48]

I haven’t been to many either , I’m not in favour of them . I personally don’t want one and just be cremated when the crematorium can fit me in . My own parents funerals were not adhered to by their instructions . It was all a bit of a farce . My take on them is if you don’t see them when they are alive don’t go their funeral and as for flowers at a crem. it’s just ridiculous . My thoughts only though .

If you feel you want to go then go . Have nice memories to remember that’s the main thing.

Shona xx

[bexx87 in reply to Shon48]

My mum wants her body to be donated mine and her brothers response is: why theres nothing they would want to screwed it all so I've expressed to so many people that I don't want to have to deal with her death my uncle said when the times comes I need to do the decent thing and arrange a funeral but my mum protests in try alcoholic style she said she just wants everyone to raise a glass to her none of this faffing around grieving busy in my eyes she already dead along with my cousins so I wont shed any tears when the time comes but I am still in shock and upset over my colleagues he did stand me through everything and listened to me and could handle me and there is many in the office that can handle me which is why I want to go out of respect and to cuss the universe for taking him from me (and his family ect) in terms of my mum people have said if I don't want her back after they have 'harvested her organs' they can do the 'disposal' because (this will sound disrespectful but she was disrespectful to me a majority of my life so I call it karma) if I got her back I would most likely dig a hole in the furthest part of England to Bristol and put her in a unmarked grave or put her on the fire and let the wind take her ashes

[Shon48 in reply to bexx87]

Oh that’s really sad about your mum but if she doesn’t want a funeral and wishes her body donated for medical research she should write it down or let her g.p write in her notes. That takes it out of your hands. I didn’t go to either of my parents funerals and I’ve never regretted it . I was there when they were alive and did all I could to care for them. My sister wanted all belts and braces even although there were pre-paid plans in place . Absolute farce.

Needless to say I have no sister anymore ,never had so don’t feel bad about it. I was having cancer treatment at the time and now this beast so no doubt she is saying it’s my Karma .

Take care and do go to your friends funeral . Shona 🤗

[Hidden in reply to bexx87]

I think u should go to colleagues-cos u might regret in the future if u don't. I was close to my mum,but i think in ur mum's case u have a right to feel what u do,and u shouldn't let anyone tell u otherwise.

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Sorry to hear about ur colleague,& had to go to a funeral.

I went to my mum's(was close to her) in summer 2017,and a friend who commited suicide last yr(planned in a hotel room,booked for one night),blamed myself for friends(noone gave a shit about her at all-nightmare neighbours & quack psychiatrist drove her too it!),i was only one who listened & believed her(people saying she was paranoid at her cremation were pissing me off-at a bloody funeral FFS!)

. I missed all my grandparents one's as either at school,or too far away in west country,most were cancer.

My fiance & a neighbour of hers are about the only few left that were sectioned in hospital over a small time period,not all old either.