After the relief of finding out I passed a blood clot and nothing more serious, the story is 2 months ago a new guy came to headway social group and I told a friend that I think hes cute and she told a staff headway staff member and the staff member told him that I think he cute, I don't intend to tell this friend any thing else after this incident (shes a year into her head injury) so Im annoyed but relieved as he like me back so we don't have to go though the stage of I like you do you like me awkwardness. His head injury was in 2005 I think and mind was in 2001, he is two years older than me and we went to the same secondary school so he knows some of my half cousins as we lived not that far away from each other. We went on a date for 8 hours (5 hours in a pub and 3 hours watching tv in his 3 bed house which is owns as he brought it out if the compensation money along with a 60 inch flat screen tv) and he stoked my leg at points.
My issue is I have explained my situation (getting out of a 9 year relationship and trying to get over a 5 month fling) and he is fine with it but what I paranoid of is im scared we will be too similar as we both have head injuries and when certain members of our social group do thinks like cry I feel really uncomfortable so I have a hard time dealing with my own issues let alone someone elses when we were at his house and even deciding what pub to do to we both didn't mind where to go or what we watched and it was like that with my ex of 9 years which made me frustrated as I had to make all the decisions so I really like it when that control is taken away from me, I also don't want our social groups to be weird if things don't work out but it is still early days and there is a first time for everything and Im meeting him for lunch today around 1. Thanks for any advices (Im also going to look into trying to let go of all the hatred and baggage towards my mum and ex boyfriend that I have been carrying around since my BI)