I hate it cuz I get so silly o...

[fayebarbiedoll]

I hate it cuz I get so silly over fings n I can't help it I get upset with my partner all th time if he's not acting a way I want him 2 I don't want 2 b like this but I can't help myself 😭 I avoid evry1 but I don't wanna lose the only person I have bcuz I love him but I feel so guilty bcuz I'm so backwad n I feel like I'm not enuff ☹️☹️

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You are underestimating yourself. He is with you because he wants to be. You haven't said what caused your brain injury or when it was. It is so easy to get frustrated when things don't go right. Have you chatted to Headway about your feelings, I am sure they might give you some ideas of how to cope when things overwhelm you. Maybe they will suggest that you have some counselling to teach you ways to control how you feel when things get on top of you. Would your partner come on this site? If so, he would learn a lot about why you react the way you do and how to cope without it becoming an argument.

Keep in touch, you will learn many things here. Others have the same sort of problems as you and can suggest ways to help both of you.

Good luck

Jan

[fayebarbiedoll in reply to Hidden]

Fanks u so much exxx

[jodr]

It's not your fault and you're not backward it's your bi! If you can try and cut yourself some slack.

My hubby had a bi last year and if things don't go exactly how he thinks they should in his head then he gets very stressy and cross...For example our youngest son asked for a biscuit but because it wasn't the biscuit hubby thought he would ask for he got cross. Not his fault just his bi.

Be good for your partner and you to get more understanding of your bi then hopefully you will both be able to appreciate that it's not you being deliberately 'silly'. A brilliant book to read is head injury a practical guide by Trevor Powell I found this enormously helpful in gaining a bit more insight into bi.

Don't beat yourself up its not your fault we're all here to help if we can and lend an understanding ear

[fayebarbiedoll in reply to jodr]

Aww yeh that's exactly like me fanks so ch I need 2 get sum info 4 me partner xxxx

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I have picked up part of your new message but it won't open. I don't think your partner would think worse of you, he needs to understand that you are acting the way you are because of your bi, not because you want to be difficult. There are many people here with injuries like yours who can explain it to him.

Headway have brochures for families to read to help them understand. Have you downloaded them for him?

Just remember, you are not stupid, or difficult, you have an injury. If you had a broken leg you wouldn't be expected to walk miles. Your brain is damaged and it needs a bit of extra care. It is early days yet and it is likely that you will improve more given time and rest.

Just remember, you just need confidence, you are as important as everyone else.

Jan

[fayebarbiedoll in reply to Hidden]

Fanks u so much xxxxx

[razyheath43]

Of course you are important! do ring Headway they really can help!

[fayebarbiedoll in reply to razyheath43]

Aww fanks 😘

[RogerCMerriman]

On of the things I hate most is that. In that I get rattled, and angry over stupid stuff.

I'm married and the brain injury happen 3 something years ago, we have both had to adjust her that I have changed and some things I get anxious/angry about now. And my self that how every rattled I might be I need to to pause and not go nuclear i.e. We both need to give a bit on both sides.

[fayebarbiedoll in reply to RogerCMerriman]

Aww fanks so much evry1 uv made me feel so much better I not alone xxx

[TaIaV]

Dear Faye,

We all hate to hear how bad you feel, but the positive thing about it is that you recognize the issue. Headway and your friends on this site can help you and your partner with the most fundamental part, which is understanding the role of your BI in this.

There are other techniques that can be helpful for people who get caught up in their emotions regardless of whether they have a BI or not! Those may be good for you to explore. For example, some are in this article psychologytoday.com/blog/fu.... Mindfulness training has helped several of my friends get control over emotions that were damaging their relationships.

It seems like your relationship with your partner is strong. He knows the real you. To keep the hurtful or petty moments in perspective maybe you can balance things out by going out of your way to be loving and helpful and apologetic when you are feeling calm and happy, Isn't it funny that we assume they know we love them without us saying anything when we are feeling good, but we assume they have to hear from us loud and clear when we are not happy?

All the best,

Taia

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Hi faye as others say you're not alone with how you feel so try not to be hard on yourself. I found after having my stroke that feeling anxious/ wound up what i refer mostly as being overwhelmed seemed to go hand in hand with being fatigued...It's a terrible combination. As long as i am in my little bubble of routine & repetition I'm fine but the minute something out of the ordinary happens i feel like my brain has to work overtime to adjust to it then fatigue seems to kick in followed by feeling overwhelmed. As time as goes on it has got better but it's not always easy. Rachel x

[fayebarbiedoll in reply to Hidden]

How u say abowt a bubble is so true I live in the bubble so I don't hav 2 mix bcus I cannot cope wiv other ppl x