Hi there

I'm sorry, I do not manage to get to respond to everything, every day, but I do read your articles!

On Thursday, at the Disabled Swimming, I now help others with their swimming. It gives me great pleasure. I am not a swimming coach, (only a horse riding coach), but I am trying to pass on all I have learned in the pool since my accident.

Anybody else who wants to come along, please feel free!

It's at The Junction, Broadstone, Poole.


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  • Hi Nutkin

    That is really lovely to hear that you have found something to give you back some purpose and pleasure in your life. Am really pleased for you. I know myself having gone suddenly from always having been a worker to suddenly not is very difficult to accept and adjust too. You lose the social connections as well. Wish I lived in your area because I would come along. x

  • Yes. It's hard! I used to be so involved before my accident! But we'll get there again. Some day! πŸ˜€πŸ˜€

  • Swimming is a great way to get keep fit as it fits in with almost all levels of need from those just getting back into exercise to those who have a weakness that prevents land based exercise to those aiming for Olympic medals.

    And coaching is a great way to help out your community and bring new people into activities you love and improve your own skills.

    So I approve :)

  • Thanks so much! πŸ˜€πŸ˜€

  • Hi Nutkin,

    Well done to you in helping other people. It feels good doesn't it.

    I volunteer at my local Headway group, it is only making drinks for the group but I love doing it.

    I have not had a payed job in my life but I see the volunteering as my job and the benfits I get is my pay. I get quite a lot for making drinks haha.

    Not only that though but having a BI is a job in itself, your body works extra than an able-bodied person... Well, that is how I see it anyhow.

    Well done again :),


  • Hi Max. Making the drinks is good. We all need them, and sometimes it's just nice to have them made for us! Bring on my tea please! πŸ˜€πŸ˜€πŸ˜€

  • By the way, it's Matt not Max haha.

  • So sorry! This unreliable brain of mine! X πŸ˜³πŸ˜‰

  • Nay worries, I get called all sorts, a lot of the time it is "Oi" haha. I knew you meant to say"Matt" :).

  • I want to help ABIers, maybe at hospital not too far away from me that does rehab, specialist for TBI/ABI and some other stuff. Tried to do CV (my good and bad points, and about my ABI and mega fatigue) but think need write letter,not sure how to do. And keep having terrible nights stress+ and feeling not good at all. Dunno if up to helping others til me/home bit more sorted. Or is that an excuse? Doesn't feel like it,how I feel at mo but what I'd LIKE (maybe) to do if/when able. ?

    But I know sometimes I'm deluded about what I can do, I WANT to do things but then try and can't. Others are deluded about me, their idea of me isn't real. But how I am VARIES so much depending on loads of things. Scared to volunteer then let people down,not know WHAT I can do/well enough,how often, how many hours, times. All very complicated! Need help, need TINY short job = get confidence, I think, IF can do it. Hate keep failing, not good for me, lose confidence and get more scared.

  • It just takes time to get the confidence. If the DESIRE is there, the rest will soon com! Good luck! πŸ˜ƒπŸ˜ƒ

  • Thanks Nutkin, I hope that's true. But what if hope is silly and it isn't true?! How long is it reasonable (and sane) to keep hoping (and trying)?

  • The brain never stops healing, even if tremendously slowly, so you will never give up. Some people who have had an ABI or TBI have no conscious thoughts about helping others, so you are already way ahead of them! Patience, hard though it may be! πŸ˜„πŸ˜‰

  • Hi Nutkin

    It is great to find a hobby you can help others and enjoy yourself. I volunteer and I have found it does help to take the focus of BI defining me. Do you feel the same?

  • Yes I do. If I can help others who are in the same situation as me, it brings me great satisfaction! πŸ˜ƒπŸ˜‰

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