I've had a bit of a violent incident with my wife tonight and I thought I'd start a new thread to ask you your opinions.
This morning whilst she was taking the kids to school I slipped on her coat on the landing and slipped down the stairs, hurting myself. I brought this up over the dinner, asking the girls if they'd left it there - no. So I asked my wife, who immediately stood and shouted something like "I didn't leave the f**king coat there!" and more, and stormed off to the bedroom.
I avoid her when she's like this. It feels totally unreasonable, totally unfair. She's so sensitive to criticism it's impossible communicating. Do you think it was wrong of me to bring up this issue?
My avoidance extends to bed, and tonight I slept on the futon in my room at the top of the house. She burst in about an hour ago, really agitated, asking why I wasn't sleeping with her, punching my body as I lay. It was frightening. What scares me is that one day she'll attack me with a knife, which she has threatened before. I'm not hurt btw.
She came back up again after storming out, shouting that it's all over, that she's leaving tomorrow and that I can take care of the girls, and that I can go to the couples therapy tomorrow on my own.
Have I just gone about this completely wrongly? Is avoiding her the wrong thing to do? How would you feel if you were my wife in this scenario? What would you do if you were me? I really don't know, but I know how I feel, and my capacity for dealing with this kind of thing is just about exhausted.