help! I really need peoples advice!!! After 4 years of debate about whether to adopt a child or not and me being petrified because I cannot even empty the dishwasher sometimes and recently held my friends baby and now have a permanent hypomobility problem in my shoulder which the excercises for seem to be hurting me and causing me more problems. Chronic fatigue has also increased this year and I'm having some thyroid investigations to see why my eyebrows are now falling out and my muscles are weaker. I felt terrible for not being well enough to be a parent but couldn't take the emotional strain and got chronically depressed. Now the pressure is off a few months later I am now feeling like I really want a child! how crazy is that? I'm due to turn 40 this year and wonder if its something to do with that. Its eating me up and I am very worried its a passing phase and we cannot afford to hire help. Last time we started the adoption process we asked them if we could have help and they said no they'd never come across that situation before where it wasn't a family member. how do people with fibro cope with raising children when you cannot even pick them up? What do you do when you are not well enough to cook them dinner or take them to school? What happens when you are in so much pain and it makes you grumpy and you are not your best self with your child? I wasn't thinking of going for a baby probably of a child of 4 or above but energy levels are so low and I think the hayfever season really effects my chronic fatigue too which I do take medication for. Its even had an impact on my husband this year. Sorry I know its a bit of an essay but I'm desperate. I'm a very loving person and have a lot of love to give but cannot take the fact that I could be a bad parent and would hate to disapoint anyone its bad enough disappointing my husband! My period is also due and I wonder if that's having an effect on how I'm feeling right now.