Hi there I guess I ‘m not the only one hanging on at this time.
Problem. I was going to start with “forget about the illness, I have never known how to make a friend “ I don’t know how to do it and then I get to trust someone and I get massively let down and betrayed.
I have had to get an electrician to do a job I would have been able to do myself. My mood wasn’t great. Yet again I have to give a piece of myself away.
I rang someone recommended by Age Uk. Let him know what the job was.(swap over a security light). He quoted what I thought was a high price without looking at the job.
Next electrician was a lady. We got chatting and I felt really relaxed speaking to her with no stress. She came, looked at the job. Again I felt really comfortable with her
Yes I know that’s what happened with my ex husband and I have had a really dreadful week physically and mentally with all the changes of medication and doctors disagreeing with each other. My doctor says I am suffering with grief. My daughter gave me a years notice before she left. We also thought she would stay over once a week to spend time together. It just didn’t happen. She was working all hours to finish her PhD and find a job And her fiancée was in a job
He hated so was spending all his time looking.
Anyway they are both now employed.
My son just told me he didn’t live here anymore.
No malice or rudeness. Just him.
Anyway the electrician rang in the week because it was going to take longer than expected.
Told me she had an hour free and she would come and try again. But the light was worked again we got on really well laughing and joking.
She is coming over tomorrow to help. I would like to have her as a friend but I don’t know how.
I remember it takes a lot of time and effort but I think to be a friend tI am aware this is all from my side desperate to do something human and today I think I might be strong enough. But am I
just a (nice customer) who needs a bit of help.
Something puzzled me, yesterday my daughter thought this was a lovely gesture . She has now changed her mind.
Is it that the times I have rang the electrician and met her I have been able? Have I got myself giddy because I had a good day and conveniently forgot that I usually spend my time in silence, happy if I can get to the toilet on time
?I’ve just answered my own question.
I would like to know how you make friends. Both of my children are still friendly from junior school to university days.
If you have managed to read all that without yawning (oh there you go).
Thank you
My mum was 40 years older than me and they didn’t do love and praise.
Done for now I think. Doctor put me on water tablets today.
Thank you again .
Some more concepts from Social Anthropology
Social Prescribers?
I'm totally isolated socially. How do others cope with it?
Social Services Care Assessments?
Social distancing rules
