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I really want to post on here, but every time I go to write about something, I either draw a complete blank, or I'm overwhelmed by the things I want to share. GRRR! It's so frustrating. On top of the Fibromyalgia and other physical ailments, I have mental health issues including ADHD so I can't focus. I'm Trying The Best I Can and am very nervous because I'm leaving my boyfriend of 6 1/2 years. I will be living on my own with my son for the first time ever. I'm afraid That my declining health or inability to focus or remember things will lead to something bad.

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Hi korikat, You have written a post! :) Anyone around to support you and your son during this time?

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Oh dear koricat, this must be a very stressful and uncertain time for you. No matter the reasons for a couple separating, it's a "loss" and an adjustment for both you and your son. It's very important you take care of yourself, so you and your son have stability. Do you have a support network? Thoughts and prayers. Stay strong, :) KT_Rose

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Glad you have reached out! :)

As KT_Rose has written, this type of a separation is a major life event and can be very stressful, even if/when it may turn out to be the best long-term move for everyone involved.

Sometimes FM and other conditions get worse with life stressors. It may be helpful to stay with a fairly regular regimen which includes anything you find helpful and healthy.

A fairly comprehensive guide is within the Fibroaction A-Z document. This is now located in the "Pinned Posts" section of the forum's home page. I like to suggest this guide, as I find it very helpful in finding/maintaining balance with FM.

This is a good time to allow for support from people you trust.

Keep reaching out. :)

May Love Surround and Uplift,



Hi korikat1 :)

Welcome to our friendly fibro forum where we all come for friendly support and advice.

You have taken a brave step and I am glad that you have decided to join us here where there is always someone nearby who may be able to help you or even just to offer a hug for support, you're among fellow fibromites here :)

I can see that you've had a couple of lovely welcomes and the A-Z has been pointed out already to you and I'd like to give you the link to our Mothersite where there is a wealth of information regarding Fibromyalgia including downloadable and printable Fact Sheets in their 'About Us' section.

Direct link to the About Us section


Life sounds very distressing for you at the moment and I was wondering if you had spoken to your GP about how things are affecting you because they may be able to help you. I have a Long Term Chronic Anxiety Disorder, which I sometimes struggle to manage because my partner also suffers with Depression and anxiety, but I have a counsellor that I can call upon when I need to talk and I find it very helpful regarding reducing my stress levels.

I also practice at least 30minutes relaxation everyday to help manage it :)

If there is anything you'd like to know about Fibromyalgia please just ask someone will soon be along :)

I am sending you soft fluffie hugs of support and wish you wellness :)

xxx sian :)


Your post is absolutely clear and very understandable so you have made a brilliant first step.

It shows to me from what you hace posted that you are already a very brave person as you have made this life changing decision because you think this is best for you and your son. Hold onto this thought whenever you feel indicisive.

How old is your son and is your boyfriend the father of your child, if so will he still be having any input as that could be a help. Zeb's suggestion about a counsellor is excellent as if you can have someone to turn to when you are going through a particularly bad time this can be of immense benefit and your GP can be a source of information from where you can get support.

Are there any local groups you could join of people who are in a similar situation that you could exchange ideas with and get mutual support from?.

Others have already given you links to our mother site FibroAction and the pinned posts and the information there is really good. Don't try to read it all at once just in small chunks but I am surte you will find it useful.

Don't be afraid to ask questions here as we are all fighting the same battle and are all on the same side and often others have been there before you and can give some good advice and support.

Keep in touch with us and let us know you are getting on.x


I want to sincerely wish you all the best of luck with your change in lifestyle and I would encourage you to try and reach out and find kindred spirits to help and share with. Why not join a local Fibro group? I have pasted you a link below to the FibroAction website whereby you may find a suitable group:

I want to genuinely wish you all the best for the future


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Thank you all for the wonderful replies. Sorry it has taken so long to reply. Things are slowly getting better in some areas but such as life others pop up. I am dealing with this with a wonderful new therapist! She's a blessing! Best wishes to you all:)


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