7 week scan .. .devastated

Hi all, I am so devastated. I had my 7 week scan today and there was no heartbeat, just an empty sac. I am so drained, I knew something was wrong, when i didn't feel any symptoms, just don't know what to do. I now have to decide whether to let my body sort itself out or have a D&C. I had so many hopes on this pregnancy, can't tell you how empty i feel. I feel so devastated for my husband, he was so excited. I thought of going through the process again is horrible, its a lot to go through. :-(

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  • Oh honey I am so so sorry. This world infuriates and scares me!? Why, this is so unfair :(

    Don't forward-think too much, just look after each other for now. When the pain lessens (and it will) you'll know what to do xxx

  • Thanks just feel incredibly sad and devastated. Life is so cruel ๐Ÿ˜ช

  • ๐Ÿ˜” xxx

  • Oh no Hun I'm so sorry, life can be so cruel & inexplicable. I doubt anyone can say anything that will help right now but I'm sending big hugs and we're here for you xxx

  • Thanks Georgina... I thought it was going well till today, devastated ๐Ÿ˜ช

  • Oh ditsy, I'm so sorry to see this. My stomach ends up in knots when I see posts like this. I can't begin to imagine what you're going through.

    All I can say is be kind to yourself and spend time with your husband to grieve together. Hopefully you can get some comfort from others here who have been through similar devastation. I'm so so sorry. Xx

  • We will thank you x

  • Oh Ditsy, sending you lots of big hugs. So so so sorry to read this. Life is so cruel. This entire journey is mixed with a crazy amounts of ups with a constant threat of downs :( xx

  • Thank you .. some people get more downs then ups x

  • Certainly feels that way sometimes xx

  • Sending you huge huge love this was me exactly a week ago today - empty sac at 7 weeks - no baby at all. Had miscarriage confirmed this morning at hospital and having surgery tomorrow.

    Nothing I can say to make it any better but I truly know how it feels. Getting that good news then having it taken away is heartbreaking. Look after yourselves and keep talking to each other. If you need someone to talk to feel free to message me xx

  • Thank you and sorry for your loss too. I think I will be having surgery next week too.

    It's horrible that we have to go through this, I guess it's not our time.. we'll get there one day waitingforourmiracle ๐Ÿ˜ช

  • Im so sorry for both you and your husband! Thinking of you!xx

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  • Aww I am so sorry to hear this, thinking of you xxx

  • Thankyou, appreciate it x

  • Aw I am so sorry to hear this ditsy life is so cruel sometimes. Sending you lots of love, will be thinking of you xxxx

  • Thankyou, appreciate it x

  • So sorry to read this ๐Ÿ˜ฉ Xx

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  • Hi ditsy999

    I read your post and it really hit home for me. I can totally understand and sympathise with you as this has happened to me 3 times, 2 at 7 wks and 1 at 12 wks. Each time i spent at least a day in bed sobbing and saying i cant go through this again... it is completely normal to grieve as it is for your husband. But when you want something so badly you somehow find the strength to keep trying.

    All i can advise is for now concentrate on you and your well-being - the rest will happen naturally.

    I am still trying to achieve being a mum, its not easy. But i know that one day it will happen as i am sure it will with you. Don't give up xx

  • I am so sorry to hear you have been through it 3 times, I can't even imagine your pain. We are warriors and we will get through this, just will take a bit of time. I won't give up. I hope you are well and you will achieve your dream of being a mum . .big hugs xx

  • So sorry my dear . Why is life so cruel I don't know myself. But take care xxx ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™

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  • Oh my gosh I'm so sorry to hear this ๐Ÿ˜ข IVF is such a terrible process it's like the happiness can be pulled from under you at any time... I hope you and your partner are ok... sending lots love xxx

  • we are coming to terms with this, it will take time x

  • So sorry to hear this ! It makes it so much worse what we have to go through xxxx virtual hugs !

  • thanks x

  • Had my appointment this morning to confirm the miscarriage, they have now referred me to the early pregnancy unit. Not looking forward to the next couple of weeks :(

  • Hi ditsy, sorry for your loss. I had a natural miscarriage 8 days ago. Initially I thought I would need the medical management (tablets) however it all happened naturally. The Early pregnancy unit I was at for assessment and scan was a great help. The midwifes were very sympathetic and supportive and helped with any question I had and reassured me at every stage. I was 10 weeks and had taken 6 yrs to get there. Life is so cruel and heartbreaking.

    I am just giving you brief detail on my story to let you know your not alone and feel free to msg me if you need to chat. I am really struggling but knowing I'm not alone does give me some comfort. Take care of yourself and take each day at a time. Hope your appointments at EPU go as well as they can. *hugs*

  • Hi, thank you so much. I am so sorry about your loss. I went for my appointment today, unfortunately it was a waste of time. They made me wait for an hour, took my blood pressure and then asked me to come back on on Thursday for a scan. Why couldn't they tell me that an hour before ?? I am hoping it happens naturally soon, crazy to think I am 8 weeks today but without baby :(

    Be strong, it will happen for us one day, sometimes it just takes some people longer xxx

  • Hope your hanging in there pet. Hope it goes as well as it can tomoro xx

  • Hi Ive been for my scan, they just confirmed what I already knew. No baby, no heart beat detected. I choose to have the miscarriage naturally, so will be in the next few weeks. x

  • Massive love Ditsy xx

  • I am sorry for your loss. I lost a baby at 7weeks 1day and chose to let him/her pass naturally because I read that truly there is no placenta until after 10 weeks and the products of conception can pass naturally. I finally has the complete miscarriage about 3 weeks later, it was just like having a period. Then they checked my blood levels regularly to assure that my BHCG level was below 5.

    The fact that you're getting pregnant is a good sign. Have your Doctor's mentioned why this keeps happening?

  • Hi I had my miscarriage starting last Thursday and most of the products have passed, Ive never seen so much blood. I have a blighted ovum, so don't know if that affects it at all. The consultant said my miscarriage was due to the Embryo having abnormal cells as everything else was ok. I had a FET, so this may affect it too. I have 3 more frosties to use so I might have 2 in my next cycle. I have been told to do a pregnancy test in 3 weeks to make sure there is no remains still in my process. Feel like my life has been on hold for so long, I just want a family x

  • It's a roller coaster of emotions, I'm sorry. I'm glad u have three banked embryos. My doctor never wants to implant more than one at a time even when I wanted to he says a singleton pregnancy has a higher chance to go full term and healthier for mom n baby. I know people do it all the time this is just my experience. I live in the USA.

  • Hi yes thats the reason why we only had 1 embie transferred, but I don't know how many more times I can go through this devastation x

  • Understandable

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