Searching advice on surrogacy

[Hannah_J]

Hello everyone!

I'm new here.

I've come here to find answers and advice. My husband and I have been trying to conceive for nearly 5 years, had 5 IVFs, but they all weren't successful. And after the last failed attempt I've been diagnosed with thin endometrium. I know, it can be treated, but I'm really emotionally drained, so IVF is no longer an option to me. But I really want to have a child! My husband proposed surrogacy, but I just don't know... Did anybody here have this experience? If yes, could you please share your story? I would really appreciate it! Thank you all in advance for your help and your time!!

[Hannah_J]

Hello Bethie,

Thank you very much for your story! It is priceless to me! And I'm pretty sure you won't get banned from the group if you name this clinic I even think that this information will be very useful for ladies like me. And the ones who will dislike it, simply shouldn't read this conversation. If it's your daughter on your profile pic, she's very lovely! I'm so happy for you!

Waiting for further information on the clinic

[Hannah_J]

Thank you!!

[NicollineS]

I also wanted to say what the Bethie told already. have heard so much great and inspiring stories about them. You can check it on their website, you have the prices and many different ''packets'' and I am sure that you will find the one that fits you. Keep us informed how the things went for you! Also, you can contact them directly, they will give you the needed answers. I am going there for the egg donation.

[MamaVe]

Hi Hannah, seems like we're in the same boat. I've had 2 rounds of IVF without much success and 3 MCs so far. Though there are probably two more chemical pregnancies, all I got was a faint line on HPT and then the AF started within 2-3 days with a couple of huge clots. It's the same problem with me - the uterine lining. Though mine was around 10-12mm while the transfer but that's still is on the lower side. My new clinic, however, informed me that perhaps it could be not the comparatively thin lining but irregularities in its structure which has been disrupting the gestation. I did get pregnant (or had a BFP) 5 times and 2 of them were from normal TTC. If this round doesn't work for me either I too will have to opt for surrogacy. Hope you find the strength to fight this infertility!

[Hannah_J in reply to MamaVe]

Hi, I'm sorry to hear that you are having the same problem as I am 🙁 I hope that your next round will be a success! But just in case, have you already started investigating surrogacy? From what I've learned from other ladies' experiences, it's not an extremely complicated process, but it requires some preparation and knowledge. Maybe you could share some info or ideas? Also, what is your opinion about the donor eggs? Sorry for asking so many questions, but I'm still confused about surrogacy motherhood 😵

[MamaVe]

Hey Beth, congratulations! Thanks for sharing such a wonderful success story with us! It's these success stories that help me and hopefully many like me to keep their hopes high even in such distressful situation as infertility is. The additional details are really helpful. Even I switched to the clinic in Ukraine hoping they could deal with my problem better. Plus, with my last FET that ended up in a BFN, I have had the last health insurance covered IVF. I've got to pay for the further rounds all by myself and reproductive tourism was comparatively more affordable than the self-financed treatment in my country. I was also considering India for the same but my SO being from Poland, East Europe sounds much more easily accessible. Hope it works out for us this time, fingers crossed!

[Marmo]

Hi! With the large amount of info avaliable today I'd rather think about going to Ukraine. Friends of mine went with Ukrainian clinic. They seem quite satisfied with it. According to legislation of this country, intended parents are legal parents of the baby born by surrogate. Their names are written in the baby’s birth certificate. A surrogate has no chance to keep a baby after signing the contract. For me this is the most important point as you've probably read a lot about how things happen to parents in other countries.. Besides they didn't pay the whole sum of money at once. If I'm not mistaken they paid in 5 instalments. No age limits and the opportunity to choose among surrogacy programs - all seems attractive for me. Wish you all the best and would be glad to hear from you soon x

[SerrineV in reply to Marmo]

I was told that our BTC clinic is one of the more expensive ones in the area. Because they have very good stats and use the latest tech to assist hatching and freeze embryos. I’m sure there are more scientific terms than what I used. I also know they recommend PGS testing. also as you can see from the total costs attached, it’s included whether you ultimately choose it or not. Or you can view it as having to pay a penalty if you don’t do PGS! But I wanted to attach the total bc your overall might be lower. will add that many of the doctors there were faculty at medical school so they really valued research, problem solving, and teaching… I’ve never once felt it was all about money or that they didn’t care. I did feel I was in the best hands. Then again, I didn’t have a comparison basis. However, we’ve been at this for years!! I have adenomyosis, LOW AMH. I’ll take a lot of responsibility for my poor egg quality…No one deserves to have bad experiences with the clinic while going through this process. It’s all out of our hands so let’s pray for the best. Just imagine all our embryos hatching. The choice is never easy but we all know what we are doing this for, right.

[SerrineV]

I’m chimming in. The IP of a child born through surrogacy in Ukraine are considered to be biological parents from the moment of conception. They are specifically named as biological parents in the birth certificate without any mentioning of the surrogate mother. Importantly the gestational surrogate has no legal claim over the child. Also no specific permission from any regulatory body is required. However written informed consent of all parties participating in the surrogacy program is mandatory! Unlike the US and Canada, babies born through surrogacy in Ukraine do not gain Ukrainian citizenship. Ukraine is currently the most popular surrogacy destination. Whilst it is an attractive option for couples because of the relatively low cost, couples need to be aware of the limitations with surrogacy in Ukraine. Among the other things to consider are: It can also make for a very complicated journey legally, where all correspondence,documents and agreements have to be translated through a professional service. It is advisable to get an English speaking lawyer in Ukraine to represent you. Unless the service is included into the package price - biotexcom.com/category/surr.... It is important that the intended parent’s name. Particularly the intended mother’s name, is exactly the same on both passport and marriage certificates. Any discrepancy can lead to time delays as translation. Notarisation and apostillization of the documents will be required. Hope this is useful.